The
End of Our Travels
2018, we sold
our RV and settled at Viewpoint in Phoenix, Arizona. We continued traveling via other modes, so I changed the blog title but retained the domain
rvcruisinglifestyle.blogspost.com.
These blog
posts went viral (up to35,000 views) on this blog:
The blog became a rich source of material for my two travel books: Carolina: Cruising to an American Dream and Cruising Past 70: It's Not Only About Outer Journeys. It's Also About Inner Ones.
My husband and I returned from our last trip together in May. He did not join me on a short solo trip to the Philippines in August. We also canceled our 16th-anniversary trip to Leavenworth, Washington. Yes, we will no longer be the wanderers we once were.
The Beginning of the End
In mid-2021, during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic, I was invited to write as an expert contributor for Travel Awaits, a travel magazine for the 50+ by the 50+. The magazine was experiencing a growth spurt at a time when no one could travel, but retirement dreams soared.
I needed more time to write for two publications, but I did not have the heart to deactivate my blog. Instead, I wrote articles for the magazine and republished them on my blog.
Of the 60+ articles I wrote, the following went viral (150,000+ clicks):
Under the magazine's leadership, my writing improved. However, I discovered that having non-original content negatively impacted my blog. From 4,000 views per post, it dwindled to 1,000.
When travel returned,
the magazine's readership fell. It was bought by new owners, who redefined the
content with their writers. I am still on the roster but no longer actively
contribute. They republished some of my articles, but all writers' retirement
pieces were removed.
As trips became less frequent, I began writing on my blog about other topics (retirement and renewal, health and longevity). After my leadership award, I also wrote about leadership and management. My views dropped to less than 300 per post. I am no longer true to my niche. My writing needs a new home.
A New
Platform
While
writing for Travel Awaits, I was unaware that the blogging world had also changed.
The plummeting views have been traced to frequent Google algorithm changes, even
for the most popular blogs. It wasn't just that I needed original content
(although I am sure that contributed). Bloggers turned to newer business
platforms.
Two of the most popular ones are Medium and Substack.
Medium is a single membership model with
over one million paid subscriptions. Editors recommend articles to their vast reader
base. The onus is to write quality articles about in-demand topics.
On the other
hand, Substack has four million paid subscribers distributed among its 20,000
or so writers, an average of 200 per writer. Writers are responsible for
promoting their writing and signing up subscribers.
Gemini, Google's AI, helped me narrow my choice to one question: Should I spend my time writing quality articles or promoting my writing to subscribers? I don't have the time to do both, as I want to work on my two new book projects.
It is time to deactivate this blog, even if I have yet to decide. Goodbye, Blogspot, Google's blogging platform. Thank you for being a good home for my travel writing.
Thank you
all for sticking with me through the years. I hope to see you again on my new
platform or when one of my books is published. I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a
Happy New Year!
Last year, I turned 75 and joined the “elderly" demographic. I thought the next turning point would be when I turned 80. But here I am, just a few weeks after celebrating my 76th birthday. My life has more changes: a focus on health, no travel, being homebound, family visits, and new writing directions.
More
Attention on Health
When I
turned 65, I celebrated being a “sexygenarian" (being sexy in the 60s), in
the middle of all our exciting travels. At 70, I began to feel older as digestive
problems flared up. We changed to slower travel.
But now, health problems have become more challenging. Bill’s health issues have grown from cardiovascular to neurological. My hypothyroidism has been cured, but GERD still haunts me. Worse, my blood pressure and cholesterol levels have risen.
After the
Blue Zones captured the world's imagination in Netflix’s “Live to 100”
documentary, I became a student of longevity. Because we are more plant-based, I have dropped 12 pounds, and Bill, six. We also try to move and walk a lot. Hopefully, we are on the road to better health.
Practically
No Travel
After we returned
from winter in Mexico, a San Diego celebration, a visit to Colorado in April,
and a trip to Honolulu for the wedding of Bill’s first grandson in May, we have
not traveled again. In August, we canceled our 16th-anniversary trip to Leavenworth,
Washington.
Bill did not
join me on a 10-day trip to Manila to receive an award and a two-day visit to my
first great-grandbaby in Santa Monica. Regrettably, our traveling days are over. We will no longer be the wanderers we
once were.
Being
Homebound
We sold our
car last December before we left for Cancun. We now travel around the valley on
Uber rides, primarily for doctor visits. Everything is delivered via Prime, by the
grocery, and the pharmacy.
Our resort
life has become busy. Every Thursday, I play Scrabble at a neighbor’s home, host a poker session at home on one Tuesday a month, and have Filipino friends come to the
house for mahjong one Sunday a month.
There are Photography Club and Painting Group meetings, line dancing classes, and Karaoke sessions. Finding new, healthy, and flavorful recipes is a constant delight. Now that my dwarf Meyer has given me 110 lemons this year, new plants will be added to my garden in
the spring.
Outreach projects have become easier to follow through on. Last month, our Fil-Am Gala
project successfully raised funds for deserving UP students after meeting via Zoom throughout the year.
A new cause has also engaged my attention. I have become a participant in an NIH-funded study managed by the Mayo Clinic and Banner Alzheimer's Institute. It’s for the early diagnosis and prevention of Alzheimer’s disease.
More
Family Visits
My
son-in-law visited in May to help with the house improvements we needed, and my
eldest daughter came down from San Francisco last month to help with my
birthday parties and Christmas decor.
My two
daughters' families in North America will come to celebrate with us in a couple
of weeks, from Christmas Day to New Year's Day. I am renting another house to
accommodate everyone.
Come and visit us. It has become the norm. Even if hosting is a bit stressful, I love doing it! I will cherish every visit.
New
Writing Directions
With all
these changes, I hardly write about travel anymore. Recently, my posts have
been about leadership and management, inspired by the award I received last
August. Health and longevity, retirement and renewal, and occasional reminiscences of our travels are other favorite topics.
My travel blog can no longer host these writings. My next post will discuss my plans for a new platform. In the meantime, new book projects have emerged. My MediterrAsian Kitchen: Cooking for Both Taste and Health is in the works and the idea for a fourth book about caregiving has taken shape.
Life can be in
the fast lane, even after 75, even without travel. There are so many unrealized
ideas. It feels like we are running out of time.
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the first-ever transaction in MegaLink |
I do not have any project management certification, be it PMP, CAPM, or CSM. Still, I have ensured that the job gets done in every assignment. I have used two tried and tested guiding principles in managing projects.
The first is to clarify the project goal and then pursue it doggedly as a team. The second is to take a long view and to make project outcomes sustainable. Here are the practical implications of both.
Getting
the Job Done
There are two
parts to getting the job done. The first is clarifying the goal. The second is pursuing
it doggedly as a team. The two are intimately connected.
In MegaLink, the Board's goal was clear: Launch ahead of BancNet. There was no time
to waste, and the process of deciding when to launch had to be implemented from
the very start. At monthly meetings with the Board, I reported about the
technical bugs that were still present and the risks associated
with launching with those bugs. It became their decision to launch.
The BIR was
also straightforward: Ensure the agency automation is widely supported. Acceptance
must be so widespread throughout the organization that there would be no chance
of sabotage. The change management dictated broad and targeted buy-in campaigns at all
levels.
Only when a
project goal is crystal clear will the entire team doggedly pursue it. Everyone
on the team can quickly appreciate it. It gives you more time to explain why that
is the goal rather than what it is. When they know why, they will do their part
well. No one wants to derail a meaningful project.
This is
especially true if the significance of your project is not readily apparent. Every project has meaning, and it can be traced to the organization's
broader goals. You must find the connection and articulate it. When the meaning
is thus exposed, it is easier for everyone to be motivated.
Making
Outcomes Sustainable
This begs
the question of ends vs. means. More is needed than getting a job done (ends). Every
project manager has to ensure that the goal is achieved in such a way (means)
that the sustainability of project outcomes is achieved.
This
involves three aspects: ensuring the users' continued use of the system, safeguarding
the organization's wealth to do more, and protecting the team members' health
for continued work.
In MegaLink, we could have launched ahead of BancNet but done a sloppy job that
the ATM cardholders discontinued using it soon after. Or we had to throw so much money into the project that the business of operating the switch could not be sustainable in the long run. Or the team members burned out that they left
right after the launch (if not before), taking their knowledge and expertise
with them. Maintenance becomes more problematic.
Similarly,
BIR could have been launched with widespread initial support because of the
buy-in campaigns. But what if it dissipated because the system proved too cumbersome? Given that the BIR project was the automation of a largely
graft-ridden bureaucracy, widespread support must include the user’s enduring acceptance
and use long after the launch.
In other words, how the system is built around the user's convenience will ensure sustainability. It is as important as the special change management programs to get buy-in or minimize resistance.
Getting
the job done is the stuff of project management. However, ensuring
sustainability has become increasingly important as well. The principles that
make these two happen remain front and center in my project management mind. Anyone
on my team must do the same. They must dictate all our project decisions and
actions.
There are
five steps to data-driven decision-making: 1) gathering relevant data, 2) organizing,
cleaning, and formatting the collected data, 3) using statistical methods to
analyze the data, 4) presenting the analysis in a clear and understandable
format, and 5) using the insights gained to make informed decisions and take
appropriate action.
What Tools
I Use
Excel has been helping me make decisions, even at home. My children fondly call me
Ms. Matrix. Here is an example of how my family uses it to decide where to go
for a family reunion.
Each family
nominates a destination and presents a description. With a simple matrix, we
compare variables like sights to see, food options available, activities for
children, weather, and travel costs.
Each variable
is given an importance ranking (the rankings should total 100%), higher
for the more important ones and lower for others. Then, each family rates each destination’s variable on a scale of 0 to 100. The average of the families’ ratings is the final
rating.
|
Importance |
New York City |
San Diego |
Orlando |
Sights for Adults |
20 |
90 |
70 |
70 |
Food Options |
30 |
95 |
85 |
80 |
Activities for Kids |
30 |
70 |
90 |
95 |
Weather |
10 |
70 |
90 |
65 |
Travel Costs |
10 |
70 |
75 |
65 |
TOTAL |
100 |
Each variable’s
score is computed by multiplying its importance by its final rating.
The variable scores for each destination are summed up. The highest total score
wins!
New York City |
San Diego |
Orlando |
||
Sights for Adults |
90x0.2=18 |
70x0.2=14 |
70x0.2=14 |
|
Food Options |
95x0.3=28.5 |
85x0.3=25.5 |
80x0.3=24 |
|
Activities for Kids |
70x0.3=21 |
90x0.3=27 |
95x0.3=28.5 |
|
Weather |
70x0.1=7 |
90x0,1=9 |
65x0.1=6.5 |
|
Flights |
70x0.1=7 |
75x0.1=7.5 |
65x0.1=6.5 |
|
TOTAL |
81.5 |
83 |
79.5 |
|
RANK |
2 |
1 |
3 |
They used to
wait for me to lead the discussion. Today, any of my daughters can build matrices.
They caught the bug and retired me.
I use two other tools for discussion and visualization. Mind mapping is great for brainstorming and exploring different possibilities. I branch out as far
from the center as possible.
Decision
Trees are diagrams that display different consequences at each fork or decision
point. It helps present various scenarios for comparison and visualize all the possible outcomes.
More Tools
and AI
Aside from simple
spreadsheets, you can also use statistical software like SPSS for statistical analysis, platforms to help manage and analyze large datasets, and data mining tools to discover hidden patterns in the data.
Artificial intelligence (AI) is increasingly becoming crucial since it can be used
for all these steps. It can:
1. Automatically
collect data from various sources and clean it to remove inconsistencies and
errors,
2. Use advanced statistical techniques and machine learning algorithms to identify patterns, trends, and correlations within large datasets that would be difficult or impossible for humans to spot.
3. Predict
future outcomes based on historical data, helping businesses make informed
decisions about marketing campaigns, product development, and more.
4. Analyze
text data, such as customer reviews or social media posts, to gain insights
into customer sentiment and preferences.
Using intelligent generative prompting, you can iterate until you are satisfied that all aspects have been covered. This allows you to invoke AI in the entire decision-making
process!
In the past month,
for example, it has helped me decide to shift my writing to another platform (more on this in a future post). I used 36 iterations,
driving down details of why, how, where, what, and when to do it.
However, human
judgment and expertise are still essential to use in conjunction with it. Review
what AI did and verify that the data is correct, there are no gaps, and decisions
are ethical. And, if you like, follow AI’s example and take a second opinion:
your own.
at one of my last talks in Manila, already very thin
When I turned 54, my sister passed on, alone and lonely, from cancer. I did not want to die like her, so I felt I had to change the trajectory of my life. Besides, burnout was starting to rear its ugly head.
After I got off the
career bandwagon and retired early, I migrated to America. My eldest and two beloved
grandchildren had already moved there to join her husband and their father.
It is helpful to revisit
what happened to me. Understanding the factors that led to my situation allows
me to uncover strategies that could have prevented burnout. Sharing them may
help you prevent one.
Understanding
Burnout
I had dwindled to a skinny 101 pounds when I entered the US. Burnout is a serious issue that can lead to physical and mental health problems.
It often occurs when an individual feels
more than overwhelmed. It can be a combination of exhaustion and disillusionment.
In hindsight, I should
not have taken the one-two punch of SAP and BayanTrade. My work at the
BIR was meaningful and manageable. However, my savings had been depleted as pay in
government was tiny.
The money, perks, and accolades offered by SAP proved hard to resist. But I walked straight into a burnout waiting to happen.
Preventing Burnout
I should have done the following:
1. Listen to My Heart
At the time, my eldest
was already working, my second daughter had graduated and was job hunting, and
my youngest was about to graduate from college.
If I had been smart, the
time to simplify my life would have arrived. There was nothing more I had to
prove. The cues were there. I did not have to return to the private sector.
Instead, I should have returned
to teach in DAP's Master in Public Management Program and the Master in
Business Administration Program of the University of the Philippines College of
Business Administration.
The government and the
academe are gentler work environments. In the process, I could have completed
my Doctorate in Business Administration. And I thrive in a scholarly
undertaking.
2. Listen to My Body
To make matters worse, in
the middle of my stay in SAP, I went into menopause. I would have benefitted
from a mentor who reminded me of self-care, prioritized my health, and learned
to say no.
Again, I did not take
this cue. Foolishly, I made the same terrible mistake and accepted the BayanTrade
offer.
Reducing Burnout
If I had been more forward-looking, I would have implemented burnout prevention or mitigation strategies as soon as I joined SAP.
1. Promote Work-Life Balance in the Office
I should have introduced
flexible work arrangements and addressed workload concerns. The company could
have also provided resources for fitness, relaxation, and counseling programs.
These are components of
a more sustainable work environment. I would have been the first
beneficiary, and other employees could have benefited.
2. Reduce Personal Commitments
Promoting work-life
balance is not the sole responsibility of the company. I was also responsible
for focusing on the job and family. These two are complex enough.
I should have minimized
extra-curricular activities in professional associations. I could also have
postponed my doctoral studies.
3. Ask for Support
I wrongly thought CEOs were supposed to be superhumans able to withstand all kinds of challenges. At lower levels, higher executives support anyone in navigating the challenges. The same is true for CEOs.
But I was too embarrassed
to ask. Worse, I thought I would be punished. Distance prevented me from building
closeness with the SAP regional team in Singapore. And, unlike MegaLink, I had yet to develop open and honest communication with the BayanTrade
board.
Burnout is a real issue.
It is essential to take care of oneself first and foremost. If you are
overwhelmed, exhausted, and disillusioned, take a break. It can allow you to
reflect, recharge, and regain your footing.
Acknowledge what your
heart says, listen to your body, promote work-life balance, reduce your outside
commitments, and ask for support. By addressing the underlying causes of
burnout and prioritizing your well-being, you can stay in your role and
enjoy it longer.
How do you
manage time today? Is it even possible? In fact, with dizzying
distractions trying to grab our attention every minute, it has become even more essential.
Classic time
management principles are still relevant, but new techniques are emerging. The
best strategy is to combine them and see what works best for you. It is also wise to realize that managing time
in the office differs from managing time in a remote location. The good
news is that, with good time management, you can combine vacation with work.
Classic and Emerging Time Management Approaches
In the 1980s
at the Institute of Advanced Computer Technology, we became a distributor of
seminars and tools by Time Management International. The following are some of the classic time management principles we advocated:
1. Identify the most important tasks and focus on them first.
2. Allocate specific time slots for different activities.
3. Create To-Do
Lists of tasks to be completed.
4. Set deadlines
to ensure timely completion of tasks.
But today's dizzying speed has led to an awareness that time must be managed even more. Many new approaches, tools, and techniques have emerged, seeking productivity and efficiency for better work-life balance.
Here are
some of them:
1. Practicing
mindfulness techniques to reduce stress and improve focus.
2. Utilizing
productivity apps and software to organize tasks, track time, and set
reminders.
3. Monitoring
time spent on different activities to identify those that waste time and those
that optimize productivity.
4. Grouping
similar tasks to improve efficiency and reduce context switching.
5. Assigning
tasks to others to free up time and increase productivity.
6. Adopting
the Pomodoro Technique of working in focused 25-minute intervals followed by
short breaks.
7. Using the
Eisenhower Matrix to prioritize based on what are both important and urgent.
8. Considering
the long-term consequences of time management decisions.
Combining
the old with the new makes for the most effective time management strategies. But you must experiment and select the ones that will work best for
you. Lastly, remember to accommodate unexpected events and changes in
priorities, crucial for staying productive in a fast-paced world.
Time Management in the Office vs. a Remote Location
While the
core principles of time management remain the same, managing time in an office
environment can differ significantly from managing time in a remote location.
An office provides
a structured environment with an established daily schedule including fixed
start and end times. Work and personal space are physically separated, making
it easier to focus on tasks.
It also
provides more social opportunities with colleagues, such as welcome breaks or
reminders to stay on task. Conversely, however, they can also mean distractions
or background noise.
On the other
hand, working remotely introduces a more flexible schedule which can be both a
benefit and a challenge. It becomes essential to set a personal routine that
works.
Since there
is no physical separation between work and personal space, chores, family
members, or pets can be distractions. Working without colleagues, however, leads to feelings
of isolation and a lack of motivation.
The key
differences are in structure, boundaries, distractions, and sources of
interaction. The bottom line is that remote work requires more self-discipline, the need to set
limits, and the ability to stay engaged.
Since 2018,
we have been in a home in Viewpoint Golf Resort. I was recruited to write for an online travel
magazine that targeted the 55+ community. During this time, I also published a second
book.
With my
established routine, I could work four to six hours daily. I make all our
meals, which are sacred times with my husband. My work is carved out
of the hours after breakfast, say 7 a.m., until 10 a.m., when I prepare our
lunch. The time after lunch, about 1 pm
until 4 p.m., is another block.
I have an
office but spend most of my time in the sunroom. It is sunshiny and looks out to the
patio of many yellow flowers. As designed, it is distinctly separate from the rest of
the house. My husband knocks when he wants to talk!
The magazine
seamlessly integrates everyone’s tasks with an Atlassian platform called
Trello. This was how I interacted with the editors, administrators, other
content specialists, the financial team, and others, efficiently connecting all of us from different parts of the world.
Combining
Vacation Time with Productive Time
Before we
settled in Viewpoint, my husband and I RVed full-time around North America for
eight years. I turned some of this recreation time to work, producing a blog
and publishing a book.
My second daughter, SVP of Eco Canada, an environmental think tank, demonstrates a better example. When she visits us with her family, she mixes work and vacation time, calling it a “workcation.”
She establishes
specific work hours in the guest bedroom. She uses technology to stay connected with her team and clients. They are informed about her limited availability and that response times could be delayed.
It's essential to be mindful of the potential challenges. Relying heavily on technology can create difficulties in an unfamiliar remote environment (which is not the case when my family visits us at our Viewpoint home).
The secret is she brings only prioritized tasks. Those are essential tasks that require immediate attention, the upper right quadrant of the Eisenhower Matrix. All other tasks are postponed until she returns.
A "workcation" offers a change of scenery that can help reduce stress and improve focus. This can lead to increased creativity and productivity and a better work-life balance. You can use ordinary downtime to explore your destination and visit with family.
Classic time management principles and new tools and approaches can improve life in today's environment, including working remotely and combining vacation time with work. There are plenty to choose from so you can find those that work best for you.
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a meeting of the UPAA Board in Arizona |
Soft skills are becoming
essential in the workplace. Together with good hard skills, you will have more
skills than your colleagues and stand out. Three became extremely helpful when
I sought to develop them.
The Three Most
Important Soft Skills
Here are the top three
soft skills that can help immensely:
Effective
Communication
Clear and concise
communication is the foundation of successful relationships and collaboration.
It delivers what you intend to say well, avoids misunderstandings, and builds
trust.
It includes paying full
attention, clarifying issues, and providing constructive feedback. It also necessitates using simple language, avoiding jargon, and tailoring the message to the
recipient.
Lastly, it is helpful to
remember that non-verbal communication strengthens or detracts from your words.
Body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions should not convey the
opposite.
Problem-solving and
Critical Thinking
We are brought into the
workplace to do routine tasks and solve problems when they
arise. Analyzing problems, identifying solutions, and making informed
decisions is a big part of the job.
First, it demonstrates
initiative. Brainstorming to generate a variety of ideas and solutions is a
first step. It includes gathering sufficient data and evaluating information
for decision-making.
Second, it means being
able to adapt to change. Flexibility and openness to new ideas and approaches
will help you find your way through analyzing problems and finding solutions.
Emotional
Intelligence
This soft skill is
crucial to building solid relationships and prospering in challenging
situations. It involves understanding and managing your emotions while doing
the same for others.
It requires
self-awareness of how emotions usually influence behavior. It also requires
empathy, understanding the feelings of others, and putting oneself in their shoes.
In addition, it means
developing healthy coping mechanisms during stressful situations. While
emotions are still poorly understood or managed, such situations
can arise.
How to Develop
These Soft Skills
NCR, IBM, and
SGV-Accenture trained me well in hard skills. Fortunately, they also included
basic training programs for soft skills. I tried to grow them more by joining
organizations, attending special soft skills training programs, and reading
books.
Joining Organizations
To improve my public
speaking skills, I joined the Toastmasters program. This ongoing workshop helps people develop confidence, clarity, and persuasiveness in oral
communication. The program also gives much practice time for active
listening, nonverbal communication, and conciseness. Most of the lessons apply to all types of communication. Being concise has helped my writing.
Both the debate format
and the table topics (for impromptu thinking) became vital in developing
problem-solving and critical-thinking skills. Evaluating others’
speeches and program participants was a weekly opportunity to practice
emotional intelligence.
Aside from Toastmasters,
other organizations, including those I was allowed to lead and a couple I even
founded, gave me more opportunities to practice all three soft skills. I
recommend joining groups like alumni associations, industry associations, or groups
in a parish.
Attending Helpful
Training Programs
There are special
workshops that provide more than the essential soft skills training programs
offered by companies. If you can, look for special programs on:
Informed Decision-Making
Creative Thinking
Thinking Outside the Box
Structured Problem-Solving
Techniques (such as root-cause analysis, mind mapping, or decision trees)
Mindfulness and Meditation
(Stress Management)
Assertiveness Training (the
Middle between Aggression and Passivity)
When you choose a
training program, consider your learning style, goals, and budget. Also, select
those led by experienced trainers. Finally, make sure you spend your time and
money on those that provide opportunities for practice and feedback as part of
the program.
Reading Books
Reading articles and books
is my go-to learning style. Reading allows me to take as much time as I need to
mull over the ideas presented in the comfort of my chair or bed.
I asked Gemini to name
the best book for each soft skill. Here is what the Google AI app gave me:
1. "How to Talk So
Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine
Mazlish. This classic book may focus on communication with children, but the
lessons apply to all relationships.
2. "Think Like a
Freak: The Radical Economics of Everyday Life" by Steven D. Levitt and
Stephen J. Dubner. This book challenges conventional thinking and encourages
readers to approach problems from new perspectives.
3. "Emotional
Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ" by Daniel Goleman. This
groundbreaking book explores the importance of emotional intelligence and
offers practical strategies for developing it.
But I was most pleased
with Gemini's last recommendation. As I mentioned in my article on personal
branding, the book was my Bible when I was working in the Philippines.
Stephen Covey's
"The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" offers timeless principles for
self-awareness, empathy, and effective communication. I read and reread the
book and was even asked to deliver talks about it.
By developing these
three essential soft skills, you will be better equipped to succeed in your
career. They will help you build strong relationships with superiors,
colleagues, and clients in whatever size of a setting.
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as Anne of Green Gables by Lucy Montgomery |
Last week’s article was
about personal branding. This week, we look at company branding. The Chief
storyteller position has emerged in recent years to connect companies with
audiences, build brand loyalty, and drive business results. It is the secret to
sustaining a company brand.
It is a truly creative
role, but it is also quite strategic. It shapes the narrative and ensures
it aligns with the overall business strategy. If it had been available during
my time, I would have preferred being a storyteller instead of a trailblazer.
It would have been a gentler path.
The Origin of the
Title
The term Chief
Storyteller traces back to the growing importance of storytelling in the
digital age. As consumers become inundated with too much information, brands
that deliver compelling stories will likely stand out more.
Unlike other C-level
officers who primarily focus on specific functional areas (e.g., finance,
operations, technology), this one is cross-functional, working closely with
other departments like marketing, product development, and human resources. The
Chief Storyteller ensures the company story is consistent and cohesive across
different touchpoints.
While the Chief
Marketing Officer (CMO) is also responsible for telling the company story, the
Chief Storyteller focuses on the overarching narrative and how it connects with
the mission, vision, and values. The CMO focuses on specific marketing tactics and
campaigns.
But they work closely
together. The Chief Storyteller takes a broader view. He manages the company
brand and ensures it is positively perceived by the public.
His Key
Responsibilities
Here are the key
responsibilities of the Chief Storyteller:
1. Develop and
articulate the brand story with a compelling narrative that captures the company's
essence. He delivers many versions of it to resonate with the different
segments of the audience.
2. Ensure consistency
and alignment with the company vision, mission, and values and that the story
is consistent across all internal and external communications.
3. Strengthen
relationships with key stakeholders, including employees, customers, investors,
and the media, to help them understand and appreciate the company story.
4. Measure and conduct
an analysis of the impact of storytelling, tracking the effectiveness of the
efforts and making data-driven recommendations for improvement.
It sounds like some of
the work the Chief Executive Officer (CEO) does. The CEO is often the Chief
Storyteller, and while the title is becoming more common in corporate
structures, it is not always a separate role.
In many cases,
especially in smaller or more traditional organizations, the CEO takes on the
responsibility of being the primary storyteller. I played that role as CEO of
MegaLink, SAP, and BayanTrade.
The CEO is often seen as
the face of the company, and his ability to articulate its vision, mission, and
values can significantly impact its success. As the Chief Storyteller, the CEO
can directly connect with employees, customers, investors, and the public,
fostering a sense of loyalty and trust.
However, as companies
grow and become more complex, they may find it beneficial to have a dedicated
Chief Storyteller who can focus solely on developing and communicating the
company's narrative. A dedicated person allows the CEO to concentrate on other strategic
aspects of the business, especially operations and product development.
His Key Skills and
Abilities
As such, here is the combination
of creative, strategic, and analytical skills that a Chief Storyteller must
have to succeed:
1. Strong storytelling
abilities and the ability to craft compelling narratives.
2. Strategic thinking to
see the big picture and understand how storytelling can contribute to the
overall business objectives.
3. Excellent ability to
effectively communicate with all internal and external stakeholders.
4. The ability to think
outside the box and come up with new and innovative storytelling ideas.
5. The ability to use
data to measure the effectiveness of storytelling efforts and make informed
decisions for change and improvement.
As I shifted to writing
(storytelling) in America, I can even be a better Chief Storyteller today. The
position plays a vital role in today's organizations. By effectively telling
the company's story, a Chief Storyteller can help build brand loyalty, drive
customer engagement, and improve business performance. It has become such an
important role.
When I was filling
out the Nomination Form for the UPAA Distinguished Alumnus Awards early
this year, I had a chance to reflect on my career. A friend who won the
Lifetime Achievement Award in 2023 said, “You were a trailblazer. Your category
should be for ‘Leadership in It Development.’” That was my brand!
How I
Got My Brand
Without
knowing it, I had developed a personal brand.
After
training with NCR and IBM, I applied with SGV&Co. I became the Marketing
Manager of the Institute of Advanced Computer Technology, its computer training
unit. That made my name synonymous with innovative things as we marketed our brand-new
courses and seminars, introducing the technology to the country.
When the
Development Academy of the Philippines sought a Vice President to introduce
more automation to government agencies, my name came up. The DAP President
invited me to become its VP for IT Applications.
Similarly,
my name reappeared when MegaLink, a consortium of banks, was formed. The Board
invited me to become the General Manager of the pioneering ATM switch.
Then,
Liwayway Vinzons-Chato, the newly appointed BIR Commissioner, asked industry
leaders for someone to help her automate the agency. They gave her my name. She
invited me to become one of her three Deputy Commissioners.
After launching
the country’s revenue system in two years, the SAP Singapore Regional Office asked me to return to the private sector as MD of SAP to introduce the groundbreaking German ERP software in the Philippines.
Two years
later, when six conglomerates formed the consortium BayanTrade to launch a
pioneering e-procurement hub in the country, they persuaded me to leave SAP.
Finally,
when Comelec wanted to move to automated elections, they asked for the
recommendation of the Dean of the UP College of Public Administration. I was then
a Doctorate in Public Administration Program student, and she recommended
me.
Increasingly,
trailblazing became attached to my name. In a competitive landscape, establishing a personal
brand like this is a necessity. Creating a unique and compelling identity
differentiates you from the competition and attracts the right opportunities.
Benefits
of Personal Branding and How to Make One
Here are
some of the benefits of establishing a personal brand:
1. Establish
credibility and authority. Your name is associated with expertise and
trustworthiness.
2. Build
trust and rapport, leading to many connections.
3.
Differentiate yourself, stand out, and showcase your uniqueness.
4. Attract the
best opportunities that align with your skills, goals, and values.
Here are
some steps I took that probably helped me build a strong brand without knowing it:
1. Shared my
expertise through written articles or speaking engagements.
2. Built relationships
with people in the IT industry and attended relevant events. I even led
associations and founded new ones.
3. Told my
story through compelling narratives about my journey, successes, and lessons
learned.
In today’s overloaded
information landscape, however, these additional steps have become crucial:
1. Define
your target audience so you can tailor your brand message.
2. Identify
your unique value proposition or what makes you different.
3. Create a
robust online presence through a professional website, good social media
profiles, and a consistent online persona.
4. Maintain
a consistent image across all platforms.
As I shifted
from a technology executive to a freelance writer, I unconsciously followed
these same steps. I do not randomly post on Facebook or LinkedIn, for example.
I always plan my posts and make sure they are well-constructed, with good
photos to accompany the text (although I need to catch up in using videos).
Doing this takes
patience, persistence, and authenticity, requiring time and effort, but it is
worth it. I successfully switched from an IT executive to a travel
writer.
Best
Books on Personal Branding
To learn
more about personal branding, I asked Gemini, Google’s AI platform, to give me
the five best books. Here is the output, complete with the gist
of each book:
“1.
"Reinventing You: Define Your Brand, Imagine Your Future" by Dorie
Clark
This book
provides a comprehensive guide to building a solid personal brand, covering self-discovery, online presence, networking, storytelling, and
adaptability.
2.
"Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action"
by Simon Sinek
It is
focused on leadership but offers valuable insights into personal branding,
especially the importance of understanding your "why" and
communicating it effectively to connect with others.
3.
"Platform: Get Noticed in the Age of Attention Economy" by Mike
Stelzner
This book
helps you understand how to build an online platform and leverage digital
channels to enhance your brand by creating content, engaging with the audience,
and growing your following.
4.
"Personal Branding for Dummies" by Paul Argenti
As the title
suggests, it offers a beginner-friendly introduction to personal branding, covering
essential concepts and providing a step-by-step guide for building a brand.
5. "The
7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey
I was pleased
to find this fifth book mentioned. It was my Bible when I was working. I read
it several times and presented talks on it when invited. Although not
specifically about personal branding, this classic book offers personal effectiveness, integrity, and relationship principles. When applied to any niche you
choose, a personal brand will emerge.
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women leaders in IT |
The average time
I worked for companies in the Philippines was 2.3 years. US statistics show
that the median stay has come down to 3.9 years, considered part of the Great
Resignation phenomenon. I must have been way ahead of the times.
But back
then, I had a good excuse. Automation was being introduced in the country at
the time. I was always invited to launch a pioneering IT project and when that finished,
I was recruited for a new one.
The availability
of future leaders became a key requirement. Even in normal situations, organizations
cannot afford downtime from leadership changes.
The
Anecdotal Story
I was lucky
because I found nine future
leaders in my 32-year career. And they
were willing to be “trained” by me, unusual since I had the reputation of being
“difficult.” Here are five of the nine:
1. Institute
of Advanced Computer Technology
At my first
managerial job as Marketing Manager in I/ACT, it was my tremendous luck that one
special day, two fresh graduates from the University of the Philippines walked
into our office, looking for jobs. They were diamonds waiting to be polished.
One of them
helped me launch the first Micro Expo, the exhibition that introduced personal
computers in the Philippines. Later, she headed our spin-off operations in HK.
She is now headquartered in Malaysia at the top of her Asian management
consulting firm.
The other
one provided excellent and steady staff work. I invited her to join me later in
BayanTrade as my executive assistant. When I left, a consortium member conglomerate
recruited her as their VP for Human Resources.
2.
Development
Academy of the Philippines
When I
joined, I found staffing complete since government turnover is low. I handpicked an executive assistant to support me. When a third
business unit was organized, she was ready to lead it.
Later I invited
her to join me in MegaLink. She impressed people there, too. When one of the bank
CEOs assumed the Chairmanship of the Social Security System, he took her with
him as VP of Management Services. She rose to be Senor VP.
3.
MegaLink
At MegaLink,
I created two business units: Operations and Business Development. I recruited
two people I identified as future leaders from my I/ACT days and waited for who
between them would emerge as my deputy.
It was a
time when IT professionals went abroad for greener pastures and the Operations Head
did just that. When I was recruited as Deputy Commissioner of the BIR, the Business
Development Head was ready to become General Manager.
4.
SAP
Philippines
When I
returned to the private sector after the BIR, I had a bigger problem at SAP.
The technical team was fine, but the sales team needed more to meet the
challenges of introducing the German ERP software into the market. I had to
recruit from outside the company.
Although she
was not a well-known salesperson in the industry, one of them proved to be an
outstanding recruit. Later she rose to become the Country Manager. She moved on
to found Third Pillar, a successful SAP Business Partner. When she sold it to a leading telco conglomerate
for a profit, she was retained as Chairman/CEO.
Lessons
on Identifying and Nurturing Future Leaders
Similar stories can be told for the other four future leaders I found. From this rich experience, I can share the
following tips.
1.
Use
Behavioral Assessment
I looked for
people who exhibited similar traits that made me successful as a
leader and if possible, did not have my weaknesses. I didn’t use leadership
assessment tools to discover adaptability, resilience, communication skills,
and teamwork.
The 360-Degree
Feedback principle, from peers, superiors, subordinates, and external
stakeholders, complemented my observations. I got a complete view of the person’s
performance and potential.
2.
Do
Things Together and Involve Them in Stretch Assignments
They are the
kind of people who did not hesitate to join me in working towards excellence. Like
me, they were not content with just getting by. We did things together. Instead
of formal leadership programs, mentorship and coaching were the norm.
I assigned
them activities and projects that required them to step outside their comfort
zones and develop more skills. For example, they were exposed to board members
of MegaLink and BayanTrade.
3.
Make
them Boss-Whisperers
This
perspective came from them: how they viewed the process.
One said she
considered herself a "boss-whisperer." The term is used informally to
describe someone who sustains a close, influential relationship with a leader.
They act as trusted advisors and provide confidential counsel and operational
support.
Another
called herself a virtual chief of staff. A chief of staff is typically a formal
position within an organization responsible for operations oversight, staff
coordination, and smooth functioning of the leader's office. I usually did not
have such a formal position (except in BIR) but this was how the
“boss-whisperer” acted.
While working
closely with me, they gained a deep understanding of my goals, challenges, and
personality. This understanding allowed them to provide valuable counsel,
influencing my decisions and actions. It became the stepping stone to taking
over my role or preparing for future leadership positions.
However,
it's important to note that while these roles can provide opportunities for
advancement, they are not guaranteed paths to leadership. However, identifying
them correctly in the first place ensures they have the potential and the
traits necessary to achieve success. These roles then become a good track to
leadership.
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a strategic planning seminar UPAAA and UPAAAz sponsored |
Strategy is
a plan of action for achieving an overall aim. An obvious example is how a good
strategy is crucial to winning a war. So is winning in business. And it’s no
different from achieving an association’s goals to serve a specific sector.
All
organizations, non-profits, or business entities, require strategic planning. Their
approaches, however, often differ due to fundamental differences, as illustrated
below.
NonProfits Businesses
Primary
Goal societal good profits
Revenues donations sales
grants
fees
Stakeholders
donors shareholders
beneficiaries employees
volunteers customers
community suppliers
Metrics social outcomes financial performance
sustainability market share
customer satisfaction
The strategic
planning process is essentially the same between non-profits and businesses. Both
organizations conduct SWOT analyses to identify strengths, weaknesses,
opportunities, and threats.
The ability
to analyze each of these four factors in depth determines the success of the
planning process. I have participated in (and even led) some, and it has been
amazing to see the strategy emerge clearly when those analyses are thorough.
However, before
going through the SWOT analysis, we should consider the nuances in strategic
planning between non-profits and businesses. Precisely because of these
fundamental differences, there are factors to consider.
Primary
Considerations.
A non-profit
must prioritize its reputation for ethical conduct. If a nonprofit becomes
viewed as unethical, it will never survive as an organization working for some societal
good. In other words, the nonprofit must focus on building social equity and,
in doing so, further the sustainability of its mission.
A Board of
Directors is crucial to this consideration (please see the previous article on "Governance vs. Management"). If the Board of Directors is identified as one of
the weaknesses, strengthening the Board
is the primary step.
On the other
hand, a business that loses its competitive advantage will soon be wiped out
from the market. That is why some for-profit organizations do not emphasize building
social equity or working for sustainability. Some may even state its aim
of financial success only in the short term.
A business may
also aim for long-term survival. In such a case, social equity and
sustainability must also be primary considerations.
Mission,
Vision, Values, and Goals
Non-profits emphasize goals that achieve societal or environmental good. In the UP Alumni Association in Arizona, for example, we strive to provide scholarships to deserving but disadvantaged UP students.
The other
goal is for the members to enjoy themselves in the process. Thus, events that
address both goals are prioritized. We have sponsored in-person Bingo and Other
Games Socials before the pandemic, virtual ones during the lockdowns, a hybrid Mini-Conference
on the Filipino, and in November this year, we organized a Fil-Am Gala Event.
Businesses
prioritize financial success. In MegaLink, for example, our goal was to
increase the transactions that go through the ATM switching facility we were
operating. Our revenues came solely from the fees we charged for those transactions.
Of course, we also had to control expenses.
Implementation
and Evaluation
Since there
are fundamental differences between both types of organizations, the metrics used
to measure success are also different.
For example,
the UP Alumni Association in America used to keep track of the number of
members and scholarships. After our strategic planning exercise, we identified
the creation of chapters as a key goal to find and serve more members, especially
in underserved areas.
Both
numbers, of members and chapters, will lead directly to more funds available for
scholarships. The strategy to organize more chapters will deliver larger
numbers faster.
Activities
that engage more members are keys to our success. The biennial Grand Reunion
and Convention is one major activity members always look forward to joining.
But enjoyable charter activities closer to members’ homes would probably reach
more members.
Businesses
are focused on financials. MegaLink earns from switch transaction fees. The
number of member banks, cardholders, and ATM locations was key to increasing that
activity. To ensure growth, we focused on all three metrics.
In addition,
to avoid attrition, employees and the representatives of the member banks had
to feel like they belonged to one big happy family. To this end, we designed active enjoyable committees,
sponsored frequent well-attended socials, and organized joint foreign trips for
technology advancement.
In
conclusion, while the strategic planning process is similar for non-profits and
businesses, the primary considerations, goals, and performance metrics differ. This
is due to their fundamental differences as organizations. Understanding these
differences will prove crucial for developing effective strategies.
Governance
and management are terms we use interchangeably, but they are different. Both
are essential but they serve distinct purposes. Understanding the differences
is necessary for leaders of organizations big or small, simple or complex,
for-profit or nonprofit.
What Is Governance
Governance
sets the framework for an organization. It means establishing its strategic direction
and accountability structures. It involves:
1. Planning strategically and defining the
organization's mission, vision, values, and goals.
2. Ensuring
that the organization operates ethically and legally by providing oversight.
3. Holding
individuals and groups responsible for their actions.
4. Managing
risks by identifying and mitigating potential risks to the organization.
Governance
typically rests on a governing body like a board of directors. Even in small
businesses, a group (formal or informal) of owner(s), investor(s), or adviser(s)
must exercise governance. Each organization needs to operate responsibly and sustainably.
My first
experience with a Board of Directors was with MegaLink. Composed of the CEOs of
the banks in the consortium, they gave me one simple direction at the start:
launch ahead of its rival consortium. After the successful launch, they guided
me in making the consortium the largest in the country with 32 member banks.
For about an
hour every month, I had to report on the progress and answer questions from these
highly experienced bank CEOs. One of the most memorable meetings was when they scrutinized
my recommendation to launch despite some bugs in the system. I argued that no
system ever reaches perfection. They grilled me about my plans to mitigate
risks. In the end, they agreed with me.
Running
MegaLInk with that Board became one of the best experiences of my career. They inspired
me to aim for growth but grounded me in my actions. I looked forward to every
Board meeting and I learned so much. They were a whole bunch of welcoming father figures.
What Is Management
On the other
hand, management involves the day-to-day execution of the organization's
strategy. It involves:
1. Developing
and implementing plans to achieve organizational goals.
2. Structuring
the organization and assigning tasks.
3. Motivating
and inspiring team members to achieve their best.
4.
Monitoring performance and taking corrective action as needed.
Management usually
rests on the shoulders of executive leaders and teams. They must have planning,
organizing, leadership, and controlling skills. The required management level
depends on the organization's size and complexity.
My first
management job was in I/ACT. As a young inexperienced marketing manager, I was
thrilled to hire three people to help me. And what good people I found! Working
alongside the operations team, we moved I/ACT to be the leader in computer
education.
Contrast
this with my stint as Deputy Commissioner of the BIR where I led a thousand people in the IT group. Three people directly reported to me: two Assistant
Commissioners and a Chief of Staff. But I had relationships with the next level
of management called Directors and the two groups of consultants for hardware
and software.
At the same
time, I had to engage with the Commissioner and the three other Deputy
Commissioners, and the next levels below them. Because of the massive change we were
implementing, I also had to reach over a hundred Revenue District Offices under
several Regional Centers around the country. In addition, we had to set up
seven new Regional Data Centers to manage the new system.
It was a
complex organizational structure to steer over ten thousand employees. I was
glad I had enough management experience to handle the huge challenges a large
organization presents.
Which is More Important?
The
nonprofit sector differs from the private sector (for-profit businesses) and
the public sector (government agencies).
While I worked, I had my first experience in this sector in professional associations. Now that I am retired, I am even more involved in alumni associations.
Although they differ in purpose, stakeholders, and legal structure, the nonprofit sector benefits as much from governance and management to ensure long-term success as the public and private sectors. They are equally important in the latter two and become more involved as the organization becomes more complex. However, governance is of a higher priority in non-profit organizations.
They can survive without a dedicated management team but a good governing board is essential. Their stakeholders usually involve many volunteers in large geographical areas and demographic sectors. A good governing body must speak for all these diverse loosely held members.
Governance takes precedence because of the need for:
1. The continuing alignment of mission and vision to focus on social impacts and prevent mission drift.
2. The consistent oversight of ethical guidelines for maintaining accountability and transparency and eliminating conflicts of interest.
3. The constant shaping of future and long-term trajectories.
4. The regular oversight of fiduciary responsibilities for monies involved.
5. The growing requirement to build public trust and ensure proper representation.
In the
associations where I have been a part, I can cite three key instances when governance
was more important than management:
1. In the UPAA
in America (please see headline photo) fundraising campaigns, the Board became more important in securing
major donations to build its endowment fund due to their connections and
credibility.
2. When responding
to a crisis at the UPAA in America, the Board used its experience to make
difficult decisions and deliver delicate messages to the respondent and the
membership.
3. At the
Philippine Computer Society, the Board used its influence to advocate for elevating
the role of IT in the nation’s progress. As President, I was invited to speak
alongside President Fidel Ramos at the National IT Summit in Malacanang. That
was the start of the road towards a cabinet position for IT.
Management can
rest on a small staff led by an executive director, active key volunteer
working committees, or a combination of both. However, an engaged Board of
Directors is of utmost strategic importance in nonprofit organizations.
The experience,
influence, and credibility of the Board of Directors will enable the
organization to focus on its mission, provide ethical oversight, and safeguard the
public interest. Doing so consistently will allow it to use its strategic
direction to grow.
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when BayanTrade was launched |
Recently, a journalist asked me questions about my UPAA Award for “Leadership in IT Development (Public and Private),” He felt that, as one of the pioneer women leaders in technology, I could talk about whether the current environment presents more opportunities for Filipinas than during the 80s, 90s, and early 2000s.
My Story
Looking
back, one of the pivotal moments in my leadership journey was when IBM asked
its Philippine subsidiary to enforce the equal opportunity employment program in full swing in the US.
I was then working
with an NCR spin-off (NCR was my first employer) selling second-hand accounting
machines and making lots of money. IBM invited me to become its first female
marketing representative.
That led to my
first management position as marketing manager at the Institute of Advanced
Computer Technology. From there I was invited to become VP of the Development
Academy of the Philippines, vice the Father of the Internet, Dr. Bill Torres.
Soon others sought
me to fill bigger leadership roles, “breaking the glass ceiling.” I was asked
to be the GM of Megalink, MD of SAP Philippines, and then President/CEO of
BayanTrade.
Invitations
to be Deputy Commissioner of the BIR and en banc consultant to the Comelec completed
my resume with more public sector experience.
I was lucky
that the Philippines has a tradition of women in leadership. At the same time,
organizations were looking for people who could become trailblazers since there
were still no examples of successful computerization.
My grit and determination to get things done must have begun to show. Having come from humble
beginnings, I developed a strong belief that nothing is impossible. That may have been the specific ability they needed to implement their pioneering projects.
The
Trend in Women Leadership
Leadership
involves multifaceted skills. Both men and women possess the qualities
necessary for effective leadership: communication, problem-solving,
decision-making, and emotional intelligence.
Thus, it is
not gender that is important. Rather, it is that people’s specific abilities are
matched to specific job requirements. And that they are allowed to advance to positions of power and influence.
Unfortunately,
as of 2023, women leaders have not yet risen to the same status as men. In the
US, women occupy approximately 27% of the seats in the US Congress, 8% of CEO
positions at Fortune 500 companies, and 36% of college presidencies.
In the
Philippines, women hold approximately 25% of seats in the Philippine House of
Representatives, the same as in the US. We fare better in the private sector: 20%
of CEOs are women. Data on academic leadership is limited and not
as good.
Studies have
found that traditional gender stereotypes can influence perceptions of
leadership. Women are often seen as more nurturing and compassionate, while men
are more decisive and assertive.
In our
culture, like others in the East, this has led to more of an earlier tradition of
women in leadership. This may be the reason we have better numbers of private
sector CEOs. However, I don’t understand why the academic sector is lagging.
The good
news is that research has consistently shown organizations with greater gender
diversity in leadership positions tend to outperform those with less diversity.
Opportunities for women in senior leadership positions are increasing.
Leadership
in the Technology Sector
What
concerns me, however, is a 2023 study by McKinsey. It found that in technology companies,
women in senior leadership such as CEOs and CTOs, have declined since 2017. The following factors have been cited as contributory:
stereotyping, lack of mentors, issues of work-life balance, and unconscious
bias.
The same thing may be true in the Philippines. I have only scant anecdotal
evidence though. During my time, women leaders like Marife Zamora, Riza Mantaring, and
Mariels Almeda Winhoffer rose to be CEOs of Convergys, Sun Life of Canada, and
IBM, respectively.
Unfortunately,
the first two entities have male leaders today. Even my seat in SAP is currently
occupied by a male. Only IBM Philippines still has a female leader in Aileen
Judab-Jiao.
But the Philippine
technology sector may be different from that of the US which is dominated by the
supply side. The US is the source of the
world’s major R&D in technology. The Philippine technology sector is
perhaps different and more demand-centric.
Companies
powered by technology such as Concentrix, GCash, Grab, Shopee, Lazada, etc., have
risen to prominence. A new crop of women tech leaders such as Rachel de Villa, Janette
Toral, and Jennifer Ligones have thus emerged.
Such a
business landscape presents a huge opportunity for women. They can dig deep
into their imagination and nurturing and compassionate traits. They are
uniquely positioned to exploit technology in services that could meet underserved
local needs. They can also export our workforce’s talent to meet global
demands.
The most
important thing to consider in choosing who to lead is that specific skills and
abilities must match the job requirements. The question of who is better suited is
not a matter of gender. It is a matter of merit and now, imagination, too.
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the BIR Management Committee under CIR Liway Chato |
The UP
Alumni Association recently gave me a Distinguished Alumnus Award for “Leadership
in IT Development (Public and Private).” That has inspired me to write about governance and management. I have written about travel and leisure, retirement and renewal, and health and longevity.
Let me start to write about leadership in this new category. The three directional phrases represent differing leadership styles.
Leading from the front is directive, behind, delegative, and alongside,
participative. To illustrate each, I use examples from my stints in different
organizations.
Leading
from the Front
Directive
leadership rests on a leader who provides clear directions, makes strong
decisions, and communicates openly. Think of a military commander, leading his
troops into battle. Not being clear may prove disastrous.
It may be less
obvious, but the same thing is true in startups like Megalink, the consortium of banks that first enabled
members to share ATMs. AS GM, the Board gave me one goal: to launch ahead of
BancNet, a rival consortium.
Since there
were no such existing switches in the Philippines, I had to go to countries that
had already succeeded in doing so. Their examples gave me enough information to
lead from the front.
When we were
ready, I presented a risk analysis to the Board. The system was not perfect, but
no system ever does. I felt the risks were minimal and I included ways to
mitigate them. They agreed with me. We launched ahead of BancNet.
Later we
also became the largest consortium at 32 member banks.
Leading
from Behind
Delegative
leadership requires that a leader empower people to take ownership and
responsibility for their work. He/she acts as a mentor, coach, or facilitator.
This type of
leadership is best suited in industries that depend on its people’s talent,
creativity, and innovation. Organizations in advertising, design, or product
development are examples.
I came
closest to using this style as MD in SAP Philippines when we were introducing
the end-to-end German ERP software in the country. The groundbreaking product
had successfully powered leading companies elsewhere in the world.
The
salespersons in the Sales Team have individual styles in covering territory and
convincing organizations within it to make his/her quota. I was ready to help
open doors, establish CEO-CEO relationships, and provide support and guidance
when they asked.
It was even
more so for the Technical Support Team. I did not come from the technical ranks,
but I assured them of the technical resources. I discovered they needed moral
support more, especially in managing conflicts with regional support teams.
Leading
Alongside the Team
This
participative leadership style emphasizes the team most. The leader works
closely with members and there is much collaboration, shared responsibility,
and consensus building.
Prime
examples are non-profit organizations that usually include many volunteers, educational
institutions that involve numerous constituents, or government agencies that handle
large numbers of people.
In BIR, the IT
group had a thousand people and worked with hundreds of consultants. When I
joined them, they had already organized into implementation teams.
I was not
brought in to stall their progress. I worked alongside the team leaders. I focused
on working with top management to inspire the huge organization to embrace the impending
major change. The system was successfully installed less than two years later.
The
Most Effective Style
In American culture,
organizations value individualism, efficiency, and results. As such, they may
lean towards the directive leadership style. In the Philippines, we emphasize collectivism,
group harmony, and relationship-building which may favor a participative style.
These are
generalizations, however. Individual organizations within both countries may
vary. In the end, the most effective leadership style is situational. It depends
on a particular team's maturity and the nature of the work, not just organizational
culture.
In SAP, for
example, even if I practiced delegative leadership with the sales and technical
teams, I led from the front with the marketing team. After all, I was the chief
storyteller for a small company of less than 30.
As the chief
marketing officer, I handed down clear marketing goals. I also clearly stated the
messaging intended for each specific audience. The marketing team applied them to
the recommended, using appropriate media.
There is not
one style that bests the others. Different situations, teams, and organizations
may require all three styles. The most effective leaders must have all three at
their disposal. In other words, they must lead from all sides.
After the award ceremonies and parties, I planned a trip to Siargao. But the universe conspired against my BFFs and me.
One after
the other, three unexpected things happened. We had to rebook our flight and change
our villa reservation to January.
As a stroke
of luck, one BFF the PR maven Jingjing Romero owned vouchers for stays and
other goodies at the historic Manila Hotel. I had never stayed there!
Alas, her
vouchers had expired on July 31, 19 days prior! She called her friend, the
editor of the Manila Bulletin, the hotel’s sister company. It worked!
After she
renewed her subscription for another year, her vouchers were extended until the
end of October. That was the key to unlocking a unique two-night staycation together with Ann, another BFF.
Tired from
our early morning ordeal at the airport, we had arroz caldo, lumpia, and bibingka
at the Lobby Lounge. The large comfy chairs around the tables underneath the
exquisite chandeliers were a haven to wait for the paperwork.
Soon we were ushered into a superior deluxe room. There was a large Welcome Basket of fruits. Then my eyes feasted on the lovely wooden lattice on the cabinet doors and the large picture window. Uniquely Filipino!
It was built
in 1909 to rival the stateliness and elegance of Malacanang Palace, the
official residence of the President of the Philippines originally built in 1750.
It added first-class lodging for the
country’s distinguished guests.
During WWII,
the Hotel was used as the Japanese military headquarters. It suffered heavy
damage but was restored to its former glory as one symbol of the country’s
resilience.
Most
prominent is the historic MacArthur Suite which became the former home of Gen.
Douglas MacArthur. Its premier Presidential Room has hosted many global celebrities
and dignitaries.
A
much-needed rest kept us in our comfortable room. We waited for Gari, another BFF, to
bring Chinese delicacies from around the area: siopao, hopia, and congee. Room service
added more to the impromptu feast.
Then the
night faded into a deep restful sleep. One remark said what everybody felt: “There’s a
reason we pay for luxury.”
But the
following day was busy. We had breakfast at the Tap Room, an old English pub
outlet which features live music at night. Wall-to-wall dividers that separate
it from the Lobby are of the same wooden lattice design I had come to love.
And off we
went to another brush with history, just three kilometers away. I had
previously been to the main areas of Malacanang Palace for official functions
and the staff buildings for meetings.
So we visited parts that must have inspired the building of the Manila Hotel. But first, we visited the new Bahay Ugnayan (Malacanang Heritage Museum) that exhibits the sitting president’s rise and the return of the Marcoses to the halls of power.
From there, we boarded the ubiquitous tricycle to go from one beautiful mansion to another. The Laperal Mansion is the President’s Guest House and the Goldenberg Mansion is the Ambassador’s Guest House. Both are beautiful architectural pieces surrounded by lovely gardens.
Nearby is
the Teus Mansion, the Presidential Museum of the Last 16 Presidents. You can also find Emilia, a great dining place
known as the House of Filipino Food. Finally, there is the National Shrine of
St. Michael and the Archangels.
Then we were
on our way for a visit to Antipolo Church. En route, we stopped for lunch at a
friend’s Bistro atop his office building in Pasig. But then rains poured,
creating traffic, so we returned to the hotel.
We dressed
up for our special dinner at the Champagne Room, dubbed the most romantic room
in Manila. With Old European-style dining, we savored each dish we ordered:
French onion soup, organic market salad, roast lamb rack thyme juice, and sous
vide beef short ribs.
The next
morning, we tried Café Ilang-Ilang, renowned for its dazzling international buffets.
There seemed to be infinite options, but I chose the traditional corned beef
breakfast I had missed for so long.
But when we
were looking for change at the end of the meal, one of our wait staff said, “Kahit
po walang tip, ang mahalaga ay naserbisyuhan at napangiti namin kayo.”
Yes, Manila
Hotel is renowned for its historic elements and understated luxury. But it
showcases Filipino hospitality at its best!
Two nights
is too short, though.
The Hotel is
in Km 0 where the city of Manila begins, right at the heart of where the
country started. Within walking distance are Rizal Park, Intramuros, and the
National Museum.
Across from
the Manila Hotel, I found a vintage “kalesa” (see headline photo). So I took a short joy ride before
we briefly enjoyed Manila Bay from the grounds of the former Army and Navy Club of
the US, now the Rizal Hotel,.
The Manila
Ocean Park, San Agustin Church, and the Manila Cathedral are just minutes away.
Farther away, Binondo, Malate, and Ermita are great for shopping, food
tripping, and nightlife. And then there is the great Mall of Asia, and casinos, too.
We didn’t have
the time to experience all the hotel offers. Another night would have been good
for Red Jade, known for its authentic Chinese dining. Another day could have
been spent luxuriating at the Spa, adult pools, and Health Club.
We still need to set foot in the Heritage Museum. However, we were impressed with the pieces at the Art Gallery and loved the huge Japanese Festival lobby display.
This stroke
of luck has led me to a decision. The Manila Hotel is where I will stay whenever
I am in Manila!
It’s now so
accessible with just 3.5 hours of driving after the TLEX (Tarlac, Pangasinan,
La Union Expressway) was added to the old NLEX (Norther Luzon Expressway) from QC
to Pampanga. Five BFFs joined my daughter, my eight-year-old grandson, and me.
We rented a 12-seater van cum driver for a little over $300.
The
Trip Up/First Dinner
The
predominantly senior group prioritized food-tripping. Just an hour into our
trip, we stopped at Lakeshore, the last gas stop at the end of NLEX. For only
P299 ( $5) per person, one BFF treated us to a breakfast buffet of Filipino favorites. (see headline photo)
We reached Baguio at lunchtime, so we went straight to the popular Fil-Chinese institution of good affordable food: Good Taste. We binged on the not-so-crispy pata, a great lomi, and their bestseller buttered chicken, the treat of another BFF.
Next, we
checked in at the Forest Lodge, the midscale option of Camp John Hay, a
military base for the US Armed Forces until its turnover to the Philippine
government in 1991. The sprawling camp has become a tourist destination with
lodging, restaurants, shopping, and entertainment.
The day
ended with a fine dining experience at Hill Station, courtesy of a third BFF. The
popular restaurant is in Casa Vallejo, a pre-WWII structure with a log cabin
interior. We ordered appetizers to start but the combination of paella,
sangria, and canonigo at the end will be long remembered.
The
Big Baguio Day
We started
our Big Baguio Day with Filipino favorites and the legendary thick cup of
chocolate at Chocolate de Batirol. It was my turn to treat everyone to this popular
garden-type eatery within the Camp, which is very near our hotel.
It brought back fond memories of our family summer vacations when my mother was the Principal of the government-owned Philippine School for the Deaf and the Blind. She had a week’s use of a standard cottage every year.
The next
stop was Mirador Hill where the Our Lady of Lourdes Grotto was established in
the early 1900s. Without a car, my mother always had us climb the 200+ steps to
reach it. This time, however, our van took us up the hill via a narrow zigzag
road. The views of Baguio City from the Grotto are exceptional.
My daughter took
my grandson to Mines View Park to shop for souvenirs and a photo-op with the
Giant Dog. It surprised us to find another Giant Dog at the junction of Wright
Park and the Mansion House. The huge St. Bernard is a nice addition to these
two standard first stops for every Baguio visitor.
Five
kilometers away at the entry to La Trinidad, Benguet where we used to pick
strawberries from the farms is the now famous StoBoSa Valley of Colors. Built-in 2016 by the Tam-awa Villagers, the area of about 150-200 houses has been
transformed into a small version of the Favelas of Rio de Janeiro. StoBoSa is short
for three sitios: Stonehill, Botiwtiw, and Sadjap.
SM Baguio is
part of the SM national chain of supermalls. Although it was opened in 2003, I didn’t
have the chance to see it before I left in mid-2004. It’s located at the upper end
of the main artery of the city Session Road. With its floor-to-ceiling glass
windows overlooking the legendary Burnham Park, Vizco’s was a good place for a
late-light lunch. The Park was where, as a young girl, I helped my father
paddle the swan boats on its man-made lake and rode the play bikes around its
perimeter!
Baguio
Country Club was our next stop to feel its upscale surroundings and bring home
its bakeshop’s famous raisin bread. Back
at Camp John Hay, we met up with my daughter and grandson who had gone
horseback riding around the Lodge.
Our farewell
dinner was at the Camp John Hay Clubhouse courtesy of a former BIR Commissioner
and friend whose husband was playing in a Camp golf tournament. It was Friday
evening, so there was a band. That occasioned singing and dancing, a great way
to end our short nostalgic stay in Baguio.
Last
Breakfast/The Trip Down
The morning
after, the last BFF treated us to a hefty breakfast at Le Chef, the Lodge Diner.
But we had to hurry to leave since we all had to be at the Awards Ceremony at 4
pm. We made it back by 1 pm, with a short burger stop, giving us plenty of
time.
I love this trip
I got to do with my BFFs and part of my family. We got to eat a lot of great
food. We didn’t encounter the horrendous traffic I had read about, and
nostalgia was everywhere. The new additions did not distract us from the Baguio
of my youth.
The last
time I was in Manila was six long years ago. I used to go back home every two
years until I found fewer and fewer reasons to go home. My three children have migrated to Canada, the US, and Australia and I began
to spend my time visiting them in their homes.
Last July, an
announcement from the University of the Philippines Alumni Association (UPAA) gave
me one good reason. I was to be honored with a Distinguished Alumnus Award for
2024, specifically for “Leadership in IT Development (Private and Public), and
I had to be there in person.
The local nomination
came from a former colleague, Fe Ferriols, and the American nomination came
from Liza Reyes, a co-founder of UPAA in Arizona and a fellow Board Member of
the UPAA in America for which we drafted a strategic plan.
The Award
During the early days of computers in the Philippines (1970s),
I was fortunate to have been selected by multinationals (NCR, IBM, SGV/Andersen
Consulting). Their global training prepared me for the impending computer era
of the next decades. The following were the assignments for which I was sought
to lead. They increased in complexity and impact, defining my contributions to
the country:
a. As Marketing Manager of the Institute of Advanced Computer
Technology, an offshoot of SGV/Andersen Consulting, I was at the forefront of
promoting the introduction of information technology in the country, from kids
to CEOs.
b. As Vice-President of the Development Academy of the
Philippines, we pioneered IT applications in government agencies, including the
Office of the President.
c. As General Manager of MegaLink, I launched the switch that
enabled banks to share ATMS, widening the use of electronic banking in the
country.
d. As Deputy
Commissioner of the Bureau of Internal Revenue, I helped launch its automation,
changing how it interfaced with taxpayers, thereby reducing opportunities for
graft and corruption.
e. As Managing
Director of SAP Philippines, I led the introduction of enterprise-wide
end-to-end applications to the largest corporations in the Philippines, making
them globally competitive.
f. As President/CEO of BayanTrade, a consortium of the six
largest conglomerates in the country, I led the introduction of eProcurement in
the Philippines.
g. As pro-bono en banc consultant to the Commission on
Elections, I helped define how electoral processes could be automated and
proceeded with the first phase, voter registration.
On August 14,
UP President Angelo Jimenez hosted a Dinner for the awardees. He gave us journal
mementos of the university. Three days later, on August 17, the Awards were
formally conferred in a ceremony held at the Ang Bahay ng Alumni at the University of the Philippines’
hallowed grounds.
My youngest eight-year-old grandchild came from Melbourne, Australia with his Mom, my youngest daughter. As he escorted me on stage to receive the award, friends said it was a heartwarming little man's statement. His light blue Barong Tagalog matched my darker blue Diwata gown. All three outfits, including my daughter’s short black modern dress, were from Filipiniana Australia. Two siblings and a brother-in-law also attended to wish me congratulations.
Eight former colleagues completed my guest list. Although I was somewhat disappointed that I was the only awardee for information technology, I was proud that Secretary Ivan Uy of the Department of Information and Communication Technology, who endorsed my nomination, was there to personally congratulate me.
The Appreciation
Parties
The day
after, I hosted two Appreciation Parties at Ral’s in the UP Ayala Techno Hub on
Commonwealth Avenue near UP. In the morning, I had a family breakfast for my
siblings’ families including their children, spouses, and grandchildren. At
lunch, there was a gathering of all the colleagues who worked with me on the
seven projects mentioned above. Also included were members of the Philippine
computer industry, the Philippine Toastmasters District, and the
Vanguards/Corps of Sponsors from where I derived much support and leadership training.
I expressed my gratitude to my former colleagues who worked alongside me,
welcomed my leadership style, and supported me every step of the way.
It felt good
to have returned to my home country to receive this Award. At 75 years old, I
had completed a full circle of my time in the Philippines, from birth,
education, family building, career advancement, and final recognition. It was too
bad my husband Bill could not be with me on this visit like he had done three
other times.
The timing of the events gave me opportunities to enjoy two bonus prizes! Watch our for the next two posts on my nostalgic visit to Baguio and a staycation at the historic Manila Hotel with
a tour of what’s new in Malacanang.
Snow and Ice in the Yukon
On the way to Whitehorse, the biggest city on Alaska Highway, between Upper Liard and Rancheria, we saw rocky embankments with many names of people assembled from rocks. We had just come from the Signpost Forest where ours became the 67,000th addition. I was in the “leaving signs mode” so I pleaded with Bill to stop. When he did, I quickly collected some rocks and began to form the letters of our names. Bill followed. But it was so time-consuming that we just did two letters: B & C, not British Columbia, not Before Christ, but Bill and Carol.
Then I saw the sign. It said, “Take nothing but pictures. Kill nothing but time. Leave nothing but footprints.” It was too late. I had already committed the crime. Later, I learned that the warning was to prevent people from displacing too many rocks because that would weaken the wall built to protect the road from onrushing snow or ice.
The Glaciers of Alaska
A week later en route to Valdez, Alaska, I remarked “Gosh, the glaciers are puny around here.” There were just tiny patches of white. A few minutes later, as our 24-foot Class C RV was negotiating a bend on the road, a white glistening mountain loomed larger and larger. It was Worthington, a 113-acre road-accessible glacier on Richardson Highway.
Bill was ecstatic, parked the RV, and began to climb the ice mountain. As usual, I was not as inclined to risk the slippery slopes and shouted for him to bring back a chunk of the glacier. He did. But it was too late when I realized it was quite foolish to break another golden rule, for a block of ice that will not last long anyway and only hug valuable prime space in our RV’s tiny freezer.
The Littlest Penguins of Australia
Another opportunity to break another rule presented itself in Melbourne, Australia while I was babysitting my youngest grandson. Every weekend when the young parents were home, I went out to see some sights. One of my first outings was to Philip Island, only a one-and-a-half-hour drive from Melbourne. It’s the home of the world’s littlest penguins, about a foot tall.
The ranger explained that the penguins waited for dark before they came in after feeding in the ocean. They waited for each other about a hundred meters from shore and waited to form a group for more security against birds of prey. At 5:49 pm, when there were eight of them, they slowly walked into the space between the two viewing platforms. The ranger repeated the rule: No Photography Allowed. But I couldn’t help it. It was the cutest sight. I took a shot.
The ones who did not swim to feed came out of their burrow to join those who did. Soon they were all around, under the boardwalk. I could not help myself and took a few more shots. I thought I was going to get away with my crime, until a ranger approached me to say, “The penguins do not do well with the light coming from cameras.” I felt so ashamed. I was almost seventy but still unable to follow the rules.
They are not made to be broken. They
are there for a reason. You will be horrified at the consequences when they are
not followed. Just look at the tons of plastic floating on the Pacific Ocean. There’s
no reason for breaking rules when traveling. There is no reason at all, even
when you are not traveling.
It has often been said that, if
there’s anything constant in this world, it is change. And when you are on the
go, as travelers always are, change happens more often.
Camping in Chicken, Alaska
Nothing illustrates this more than this incident in Chicken, Alaska. We were newbies in RVing. We successfully drove across the Alaska Highway from Calgary, Alberta to spend a cool summer month in Alaska. But we returned to the Lower 48 on a different route through Chicken, Alaska, the Top of the World Highway to Dawson City in the Yukon, and then the Glacier Highway in British Columbia.
I distinctly remember the trauma of taking a shower in Chicken, a little town of 32 in summer and seven in winter. I thought I had enough Loonies (Canadian coins) for a hot shower at the campground. I ended by rinsing with cold water at the sink in a room with no heater in the cold of fall. I made a mistake and put all of them all at once in the beginning, I was supposed to put each one before each segment ran out. I had to learn to be more flexible. We were in a different “home” every few days.
Using Public Transportation in Mexico City
Then I remember the folly of resisting local ways. During our 2009 three-week tour of Mexico, we parked our RV in Teotihuacan where the most visited pre-Hispanic ruins of the oldest civilization in North America are located. It is 25 miles northeast of Mexico City. One day, we took the public bus to tour the metropolis. With a population of 18 million, it is one of the most congested cities in the world. We loved our tour of Catedral Metropolitana, Templo Mayor, Plaza de la Constitucion, Palacio Nacional, and the Avenida Central shopping area, ending our day with a visit to the only authentic castle in North America, Chapultepec.
To get back to Teotihuacan, we needed to take the train to get to the bus station. But I was horrified to find that men and women rode in separate carriages to prevent chances of unwanted encounters. I didn’t want to be apart from my husband, so we hailed a taxi instead. Bill lost his cell phone and a lot of money and time going through all the city traffic in that cab. It was good that we made it to the last bus to Teotihuacan. But I should not have resisted local ways.
Stopping in Guangzhou, China
One year I went to Melbourne, Australia to babysit my youngest grandson. The cheapskate that I am, I opted for the lowest fares with long layovers in Guangzhou, China. I thought not only would I save money, but I would also get to tour the second-largest Chinese city after Shanghai. Unfortunately, I discovered the seven-hour layover wasn’t long enough because I needed two hours each way to get to Guangzhou. I decided to spend those seven hours with my laptop instead.
Sadly, its battery was down to almost zero. It just so happens that I also have a mechanical aptitude near zero. I could not get my chargers to work. Luckily, I discovered that my husband had put a portable one into my bag. That plus help from a millennial Chinese couple saved me. But when I finally sat down, I was dismayed. I had forgotten that Facebook is banned in China. I turned to surfing, only to find that every search landed me in an unfamiliar site, totally in Chinese. My isolation was complete. I should have brought a book.
It is hard to make a woman in her seventies to be more flexible. But I love to travel so I would have to keep on trying. I must be better prepared, arm myself with prior knowledge, and, most of all, have a great attitude when something unexpected happens instead.
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dancing in Sedona |
Health issues became a nagging
problem when my husband and I RVed full-time.
Cardiovascular problems plagued Bill while gastrointestinal and other
stress-related conditions hounded me. Mesmerized
by America’s beauty, we were always on the go, forgetting to keep fit. We should
have paid more attention to it in three areas: exercise, food intake, and
healthcare.
Regular Exercise
Before our RV cruising days, we went to the gym regularly. However, campground fitness facilities proved inconsistent when we started our cross-continent runs. We thought hiking would be our main regimen, but many times hordes of mosquitoes feasted on us! And it was either too cold or too hot. And, even if sightseeing meant plenty of walking, it was only strolling.
Over time, we learned that we just had to do at least two of the following or suffer the consequences. When Fitbits became popular, we aimed to do at least 6,000 steps a day.
1. Play a sport for at least 30 minutes five times a week. Choose from available facilities: table tennis, billiards, mini-golf, golf, tennis, and pickleball. Or dance!
3. Exercise for at least 30 minutes, five times a week, gym or no gym. YouTube offers many exercise videos. We like Jennifer McClendon.
2. Walk for 30 minutes at least five times a week after dinner.
Healthy Food Intake
During our early cruising days in our smaller RV, we would cut up a lot of veggies and fruits and have nuts available for snacking on, with lots of water to wash them down, while we moved from place to place. When we settled at campgrounds longer, nesting in a bigger RV, we began to cook more meals. Loving to try local cuisine, we succumbed to heartier eating.
When the Blue Zones became well-known, we went into a modified Longevity Diet: more vegetables, legumes, nuts, whole grains, and fruits, regularly adding fish and seafood, and occasionally, chicken, pork, or beef. We had to make the following rules:
1. Eat one big meal a day, preferably lunch, and two other small ones or just two regular meals, late breakfast and early dinner.
2. Graze throughout the day with light morning, afternoon, and evening snacks, such as nuts, fruits, or vegetables.
3. Eat out infrequently, preferably only during an occasion for celebration, and compensate with smaller meals the rest of the day when we do.
In addition, we discovered two novel ways of skipping a meal at least once a week. One is to have a popcorn lunch while watching a movie in the theater. The other is to lunch with free Costco food samples when we shop for supplies.
When we started to travel the world after our RVing phase, we stayed in our timeshare units. They always have kitchens, enabling shopping at local groceries, where there are many goodies we don’t find in stores back home, and cooking new and exciting local fare.
Beginning in 2019, we converted our El Cid timeshares in Mexico to be all-inclusive. Instead of encouraging us to eat more, we became smart and upped our resolve with buffets' abundant seafood, vegetable, and fruit choices.
Preventive Healthcare
At the beginning of our full-time RVing, we forgot about preventive healthcare. Later we became snowbirds and settled our RV in Phoenix every winter. It was the smartest decision we ever made. There is excellent care for seniors because of the high population of retired and visiting seniors. Arizona ranks #15 among the 50 states in terms of elderly care. It is one of the reasons we chose to settle here permanently. We found an excellent family doctor who keeps track of regular screens and refers us to the best specialists needed.
We travel less now but the habits we formed have stayed with us. With regular exercise, healthy food intake, and consistent preventive healthcare, we look forward to some travel, even past our 70s and 80s.
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I was sick so I could only admire the Icelandic fishing town Isofjordur from the deck |
The most unfortunate thing is to get sick when you are traveling. In our sixteen years of travels, I remember three occasions when that happened to my husband and me.
With health issues becoming more serious as we age, there are several things we must do if we want to continue traveling. Our travels should be safe, convenient, and comfortable. We must also keep our insurance up-to-date and comprehensive. But the most important thing is to keep ourselves as healthy as possible, ready to face the rigors of life on the road.
Travel mishaps are unfortunate accidents. They are pimples in the otherwise clear complexion of a fine travel day. I’m not talking about those incidents that make us scared enough to rethink how we travel. I am talking about simple occurrences that can be prevented but didn’t or couldn’t. Travelers are often in unfamiliar places so mishaps can happen to us more often. How we deal with them matters.
Buried
in Snow
Early in our
RVing career, we had to return to Washington from Florida for my citizenship
interview with the US CIS. We weren’t supposed to be in the north in November, but
we had to. We parked our RV at the Thunderbird RV and Camping Resort in Monroe,
beside a river so my husband could do some fishing. But when a snowstorm arrived,
we got trapped inside our RV.
With very
little propane left, our lone energy source for the heater and stove, we
confined ourselves to microwaveable meals. Since management could not risk
their pipes freezing, we were forced to scrimp on the little water we had left
in the freshwater tank. But we didn’t
get glued to the TV and Internet. Instead, we enjoyed the new living arrangements.
My husband ran errands and walked through the snow. I was a good girl scout, following
instructions, for a change.
Stranded
on the Interstate
Later we had
a scarier one. Driving down Interstate 71 from Cincinnati, Ohio to Louisville,
Kentucky, the right front tire of the RV blew out. It had eight tires, two in
front and six at the rear in two axles. It was such a loud noise, unfamiliar to
my ears, and I got scared. Bill managed to steer our 20,000-pound rig off the
road. He remained calm and called Good Sam. flat tire on I-71
Then he found
the Rummikub game and we played a few games, letting me win so I could forget my
fear. But we had to wait inside the RV on a hot afternoon, without air conditioning.
Help finally arrived and the tire was replaced. The rescue truck accompanied us
to Louisville because he said many of our tires needed changing. It was
midnight when we arrived at their shop. We were tired but, as usual, my husband
was that same old boy scout I had married!
Lost
in Helsinki
And that is
why, in Helsinki, I panicked when I thought I lost him. After the failed hostel experiment in Oslo,
we chose the Hotel Ava, a very affordable option because it was attached to a
Hotel Management Institute that provided most of the staff. The only problem was
it was twenty minutes away from the city center. A Helsinki card was our
solution, It paid for museums, tours, and cruises, as well as all public
transport. It was a nice feeling to go ‘home’ at the end of the day. Hotel Ava and Institute
On our last
day, we finished packing early. We waited in the lobby with our bags, ready for
the 3 pm public bus to the airport. We had time so my husband left for the
nearby pharmacy just around the corner. But by 2:30 pm, he had not come back. I
was upset that the receptionist did not give him a map of how to get there and
back. I was in full panic mode, imagining all sorts of things that could have
happened to him. At 2:55 pm, he came in,
got his bags, and instructed me to follow him to the bus stop. I ran all the
way, lugging my carry-on through the cobbled streets, unmindful if it got
damaged. Mr. calm, cool, and collected.
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New Year snow in Phoenix |
Lady Byrd Johnson once said: “When I no longer thrill to the first snow of the season, then I’ll know I am growing old.” That will never happen because I refuse to grow old and it doesn’t snow in Phoenix. But at a New Year’s Eve Party somewhere north of Phoenix, my husband and I experienced the impossible. Snow fell! That was a decade ago and it hasn’t happened again, but I remember the thrill we both felt.
I love
first-time thrills like that and always look for more because age does not
matter. Just be open to experiencing the rare, the unexpected, and even the
scary. Somebody said, “If it excites and scares you at the same time, then it
probably means you should do it.” It will give you a first-time thrill.
Exciting and
Scary
At Yukon’s Dawson
City, I had waited all night for the Northern Lights to appear only to be disappointed.
My doting husband knew he had to find a way to perk me up. He decided to drive
to the Arctic Circle on the Dempster Highway. We had passed up the opportunity
to do it from Fairbanks, Alaska on the shorter and better Dalton Highway. He
was afraid our old Class C motorhome might not make the remote dirt gravel road
because there was only one stop on the way that could help just in case.
Soon, the unique
fall spectacle unfolded before our very eyes. The trees and shrubs grew shorter;
it turned into a brighter red, orange, and gold alpine tundra. The landscape
became an autumnal carpet of lichens and fungi that hugged the Tombstone
Territorial Park. We were shivering in that quiet cold windy spot, but it was
well worth the drive! I may stil not have seen the Northern Lights (saw them later on another trip to Anchorage) but I got an even better thrill!
Difficult and Untried
Just two
months later I did one thing I had never been able to do throughout my
childhood. The Philippines would have been a great place to do it but I thought
it was difficult for a wimp like me. We had traveled to visit my sister in
Falls Church, Virginia. At nearby and windy Virginia Beach, my husband succeeded
in guiding me to fly my first-ever kite. It was so thrilling that we forgot to
take a photo.
A few months
later we had to return to the West Coast. My new kite-flying prowess allowed me
to enjoy two towns more than I could ever have done. I loved the World Kite
Museum and Hall of Fame in Long Beach, Washington. In Seaside, Oregon, we
chanced upon the World Kite Festival and were privileged to see outdoor and
indoor competitions.
I still must
learn to ride a bike, however. And I don’t mean the one at the gym.
Fun but Risky
A year
later, I experienced that first-time thrill again at the World Waterpark inside
the fourth-largest shopping center, the West Edmonton Mall in Edmonton,
Alberta, Canada. Corkscrew was its intermediate water slide with two enclosed pipes
that twist, turn, and drop into a wide splash pool. I have never learned to
swim and water deeper than three feet scares me.
But my
husband promised he’d be there waiting for me at the end. That was all I
needed. As I cascaded down, I was deathly afraid, especially when it got dark. I
felt so alone and thought I would drown in the pool when I came out. But, when
I did, there was my husband! He cuddled me in his arms, saying: “See how easy
and fun it is?” Yes, he gave me another trophy in life.
There have
been many other firsts, and I hope there will be more, even as I get older. One
key is to have a cheerleader by your side. That was my husband. However, a certain Steven White once said: “If
at first, you don’t succeed, then skydiving definitely isn’t for you.” I will,
therefore, exclude skydiving from my pursuit of first-time thrills!
I had to renounce my Filipino citizenship when I took my oath as a US citizen. It was a heartbreaking technicality.
Although
having lived here for almost 20 years, I must admit I have changed. My dancing turned from
disco and ballroom to country and rock, my singing from pop to country, and my
clothes from blouses and skirts to tank tops and shorts. My kitchen is shifting
from cooking pancit and lumpia to grilling steaks and baking pies. My everyday
conversation has become American English, not Tag-lish.
Still, my sixty
years of Filipino upbringing are a solid foundation. I felt lost when I
was thrust into a largely white community of RVers, meeting only a handful of
African-American, Hispanic, and Asian-American couples in eight years. Even in
Viewpoint’s thousands of households, there are only three Filipinos.
When I am
with kababayans, I readily shift to Tagalog because that is how I think.
That’s why I can confuse genders. Tagalog words, except for those that connote
respect like kuya for older brother and ate, older sister, are
the same. Son or daughter is anak; wife or husband, asawa; brother
or sister, kapatid. Speaking in Tagalog will always be easier for me.
I miss
authentic Filipino food, too. A sandwich is not a complete meal because there’s
no rice. Pan de sal (bread) is only for snacks or breakfast. The Philippine
mango is still my favorite fruit. And I will never erase the fact that my skin
is brown, and my nose is small. Nor do I want to change any of these.
When I meet
Filipinos worldwide who are sacrificing not being with their families to eke
out dollars to send home, I identify with the homesickness. And I take pride in
Filipino triumphs and feel compassion for Filipino difficulties. Those will always be my automatic impulses.
But there is
a deep kinship between the Philippines and America. We share the Pacific Ocean
and with it, the treacherous Pacific Ring of Fire. Spain colonized the American
Southwest and the Philippines at the same time. Filipino nurses, teachers, and
seamen are part of US hospitals, schools, and ships. And July 4 is doubly
meaningful for, on that day in 1946, the US gave us our independence, 170 years
after she got her own.
There are also big differences. The Philippines is a tropical archipelago
of 7,641 islands while the US is more of a vast contiguous temperate landmass.
Plants and wildlife are different. The wide vistas of the Great Plains, the
desert landscape of the Southwest, and the glaciers of Alaska are so different
from what I knew as a child.
At first, I
despaired for my homeland when I saw that American systems are much more
developed. But no more. The Philippines is only 78 years old; the US is already
248. And it was America who laid the foundation for Philippine highways,
schools, and public administration. There is reason, time, and room to grow!
I will not
be able to recapture the life I left in the Philippines. Other people are not
as clannish as those with Spanish heritage like us. Sometimes friendships we build
here move far away to different states or countries. The good news is that
America is moving away from being a melting pot. Pockets of people can
preserve their traditions and cultures, except when you marry into another
culture like I did.
When I learned that the Philippines is one of the few countries where
the US allows dual citizenship, I heaved a sigh of relief. But the nearest Philippine Consulate was in Los
Angeles so it took me two years to get the chance to do it. On Oct. 13, 2013, I
re-pledged my loyalty to my native land and became a Filipino-American.
I did not
get boiled into a thick soup melting in the pot. Instead, I got included in a
colorful chunky stew, contributing to the taste, but retaining enough of my
shape, color, and flavor. In this privileged perch, I see my developing
homeland from the perspective of my developed home base. I have
an enviable dual mission: helping the Philippines as an American and contributing to
America as a Filipino.
where the "shot heard round the world" was fired: Lexington, Massachusetts
This story began
way back when I was born. My father was a soldier who fought alongside
Americans against the Japanese on Philippine soil in WWII. My mother was sent to America on a Philippine
government scholarship to study the latest in deaf education and to bring it
back to the Philippines. Both infected me with their love for America.
Getting a
high school scholarship to the American School fueled the addiction. Training
by American multinationals after college further stirred the pot. I almost relocated
to the US when Philippine democracy and economy were in tatters during the fall
of Marcos. It was, therefore, no accident that I came to America to retire. On
Valentine’s Day 2011, I became a US citizen.
Early in our
RV cruising days, I unequivocally saw America's beauty. I was mesmerized
by spectacular national parks like Glacier Bay, Denali, Mt. Rainier, Yosemite,
Sequoia, Joshua Tree, Grand Canyon, Rocky Mountain, Badlands, Everglades,
Smokey Mountain, Acadia, etc. I began to sing the song, "America, the Beautiful."
When we drove
up the East Coast from Florida, I lingered in the solemn halls of Washington DC,
Baltimore in Maryland, Philadelphia in Pennsylvania, and Boston and Concord in Massachusetts.
These cities played significant roles in the birth of this great nation. I
began to hum "The Star-Spangled Banner."
In no
uncertain terms, I was starting to feel like an American. I felt sad as I
walked along the Civil War battlegrounds, proud when I gazed at awesome NASA
rockets, inspired among the ancient ruins and great houses of American Indians,
and more. I knew the conversion was final when I began to take pride.
The
technical difference between a US permanent resident and a naturalized citizen
is that the latter can vote (or run for an elected post office). I cast my vote
for the first time in the 2012 presidential elections. It was amazing to watch as
more than 300 million people accepted the results broadcast by the press with
polling centers in Hawaii and Alaska still open.
There are
other systems to love. They say that there are more libraries than McDonald’s
stores in America. Every county issued library cards to us even if we would
only be in the area for a few weeks. The largest national highway system in the
world made road trips so easy. Through Bill’s $10 Senior Golden Pass, we have visited,
for free, 31 National Parks, 92 National Monuments and National Historic Sites,
and both national parkways.
I have visited
31 of the forty-six American Presidents’ homes, tombs, and/or presidential
libraries; even the homes of their first ladies. We came across
larger-than-life heroes, brave pioneers, cultural icons, and lay and church
leaders. I was inspired by Americans who came and fulfilled their dreams.
Visits to the homes and tombs of literary greats gave me the final nudge to
start writing.
We have been
to the largest and the smallest of towns, the poorest of counties and the
wealthiest of states, and everything in between. Some of America’s man-made
structures and natural formations are among the tallest, the biggest, or the longest
in the world. There are those that you cannot find anywhere else. We visited
factories of products made in America and headquarters of noble institutions
that serve the world. It was cool to discover that we had been to half of the
suggested places in the July 2014 article in Readers’ Digest, “A Quirky Tour of the US.”
My American
education was an intravenous transfusion, not just an injection. I am no longer
a Filipino tourist or a permanent resident. I am not even just a US citizen. I
am an American. But to be a US citizen, I had to surrender my Philippine
citizenship. Did this mean I ceased to be a Filipino? The answer is in Part 2.