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Covid-19 pandemic caused increase in UK alcohol deaths 23 Apr 2024 10:21 AM (last year)

News media tells us that the rate of fatalities from excess drinking in 2022 in the UK were 41% higher than in 2019 with women showing the biggest rise. It was a record high in 2022.There were 16.6 deaths caused by alcohol per 100,000 in 2022 compared to 11.8. The information comes from the UK's Office for National Statistics.The research indicated that those who were drinking quite a lot of

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How does someone become an alcoholic? 21 Apr 2024 4:58 AM (last year)

Firstly, I would like to tell you why I think Jane became an alcoholic. She had no definitive diagnosis but this is my opinion. Below the picture are some general views on alcoholism.She finds life too hard. She finds life too hard because emotionally and mentally her development was arrested I believe. She sometimes behaves like a 14-year-old. With that mentality life can become very hard. If

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Binge alcoholism versus day-to-day alcoholism 18 Apr 2024 8:05 AM (last year)

There is a difference between binge alcoholism and day-to-day or traditional alcoholism. I will discuss this from personal experience. And I don't mean me being an alcoholic because I am teetotal. I'm talking about looking after Jane who is a binge alcoholic and has been for 40 years perhaps.JaneI think you will find different definitions of binge alcoholism. For me, and in respect of Jane, it

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Why are alcoholics in denial about their alcoholism? 17 Apr 2024 8:46 AM (last year)

Jane, the protagonist in this blog, is constantly in profound denial about her alcoholism. You simply cannot talk to her about it. If you try she becomes angry and argumentative. She simply refuses to discuss her alcoholism which perpetuates it because you can never tackle it. Denial is lying to oneself...She doesn't allow other people to discuss it. Although in an Alcoholics Anonymous

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Daughter describes her mother's alcoholism (ticks all the boxes) 16 Apr 2024 12:13 PM (last year)

A daughter has described her mother's descent into alcoholism (Metro online newspaper). Every step of the way including her death ticks a box about alcoholism. It's a good story for that reason but it is tragic. Utterly tragic. By that I mean for the daughter more than for the mother. She was drinking two litres of spirits every day and was out of it. It is always the relatives who suffer the

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Can alcoholism cause dementia? 8 Apr 2024 6:47 AM (last year)

Yes, it can contribute to dementia. Here are some pointers from an extensive internet search and from personal experience (from observing an alcoholic). Personal experience: I think Jane is losing her memory and I think it is due to her drinking. I'm speculating but it looks a bit like that.Alcoholism can indeed contribute to the development of dementia, although the relationship is multifaceted.

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Alcoholism Is a Habit Not a Disease 7 Apr 2024 5:16 AM (last year)

Alcoholism is a habit not a disease. Obviously it is a very deep-seated habit. It is probably a habit which developed over a long period of time. As a consequence it will take a long period of time to unlearn the habit. What would be a crystallising moment which helps to break the habit is the knowledge that one is going to die through alcoholism provided the alcoholic does not wish to die.That's

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What kind of relationship can you have with an alcoholic? 7 Apr 2024 1:17 AM (last year)

Well, I don't think you can have a relationship at all in the conventional sense of a man/woman's loving relationship in which you both contribute in the same way. It is bound to be badly disrupted by the alcoholism of one partner. Indeed destroyed often or normally as it is intolerable. It is the alcoholic's lying with damages trust which is also a major factor. It is said that it is the sober

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The 3 Secrets to Quitting Drinking and Beating Alcoholism 6 Apr 2024 9:13 PM (last year)

This is a brief post to try and keep the site alive. No one has read a single page on this site for months! :) I think Google has disowned it completely. It no longer recognises it. I won't say more now. Update: the reason? Because I had inadvertently made the website PRIVATE! I was trying to make myself anonymous. I failed and I am in the open now. I don't care.Here is a video on how to beat

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Alcoholism and lying go together like sausages and mash 6 Apr 2024 10:00 AM (last year)

One of the great destroyers of alcoholism is that it breeds lying. Lying to oneself and others. Lying about not drinking, about not feeling like a drink, about buying booze, about planning to drink or anything for that matter because once you lie to hide your alcoholism you lie about other things and the alcoholic becomes an inveterate liar. A dark walk in a forest of lies.Trust is the victim and

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10 warning signs that might indicate alcoholism 1 Apr 2024 10:37 AM (last year)

 Sorry that the picture is disrespectful. It was created by AI! I have respect for alcoholics. There but for the grace of God go I as the saying goes.Certainly! Here are 10 warning signs that might indicate alcoholism:Drinking Alone and in Secrecy: If you find yourself frequently drinking alone or hiding your alcohol consumption from others, it could be a sign of alcoholism.Losing

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An alcoholic who does not want to stop 31 Mar 2024 10:06 AM (last year)

Just a quick note to say that I am still alive as the author of this website and that Jane, the alcoholic in question, is also still alive. Jane still has an alcoholic binge every three months and each alcoholic binge lasts about two months when you take into account the recovery time as well.I am 76 years of age and Jane is around 72 years of age. I am sure that as you get older the chances of a

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I am both sympathetic and unsympathetic towards alcoholics 22 Apr 2021 11:05 PM (4 years ago)

You have to be sympathetic towards alcoholics because there but for the grace of God go I. Alcoholism is described as a disease. I don't think that it is. It is a very strong habit, almost impossible to shake off. But humans are predisposed to this sort of condition. Anybody can be born with this predisposition towards alcoholism.&nbsp;Photo: Pixabay. <!--New square ad 24May2020--> (

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Avoiding drink-driving as a binge alcoholic 22 Apr 2021 7:52 PM (4 years ago)

A permanent danger for the binge alcoholic is drink-driving. They call this driving under the influence, DUI, in America. Binge alcoholics are those that are sober for a long time, perhaps a month or up to 3 months, and then they have an almighty binge during which they become completely and horrifically drunk, make a mess of their home and end up in hospital.&nbsp;Gotta stop DUI - drink-driving

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Covid-19 did not kill Jane but it'll be a long road to recovery 5 Apr 2021 8:14 AM (4 years ago)

Update: the road to recovery is shorter than I had expcted for her....This is a quick update on my last post. In that post I said that Jane had caught Covid-19 at hospital while she was recovering from an alcoholic binge. In hospitals in the UK they test you all the time for Covid. Anyway, she recovered in hospital from the worst of the symptoms and is now at home. She says that she lacks energy.

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She is in hospital with Covid-19 after a binge 10 Feb 2021 11:09 AM (4 years ago)

Jane is currently in hospital after a binge. She went to hospital because of an alcoholic binge and while she was in hospital she was routinely tested for Covid-19 and found to be positive. I believe that she caught the coronavirus from a previous very recent stay at hospital after another binge.&nbsp;I spoke to a doctor and they said that Covid-19 is quite prevalent at hospitals. It is hard to

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Nature is a great healer 10 Dec 2019 8:49 PM (5 years ago)

Just a quick update for anyone who is following this blog. I am sure no one is but there you are. I'll update anyway. You may well know who I am by now but I don't really care if you do. Jane is okay. She's had the usual binge but they are further apart than in the past. She's pretty healthy. Binging does not damage health as much as permanent drinking as the body has time to recover.&nbsp

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She Wants to Die 1 Mar 2018 7:25 AM (7 years ago)

Jane wants to die. She has desired this for many years. She continues to drink. Just to remind you, she is a binge drinker. This means that she does not drink continuously like most alcoholics but pauses between binges of about a week. The pause until the next binge maybe a month or maybe less. The binge itself may be longer than a week or less. She drinks need vodka normally. Out of the

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Why are alcoholics skinny? 29 Jul 2016 6:28 AM (8 years ago)

Internet users ask, "why are alcoholics skinny?". I don't believe all alcoholics are skinny but a lot of dyed in the wool alcoholics are probably malnourished resulting in being skinny. 35 year old alcoholic who drank to excess for a long time and who is dying They are malnourished because they don't care about their health or appearance. They may have low self-esteem (many alcoholics do

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We Had a Nice Day Today 3 May 2016 1:26 PM (8 years ago)

Today was sunny. We had a nice day today. Jane came over and we went for a walk down by the river. Then we had a coffee and a cup of tea&nbsp;at a café. Then she went back to her flat and I went to my flat. That was pleasant. We are seeing each other regularly. We are enjoying each other's company.  Don't be fooled by this. It isn't this good ;) We just live day to day. Jane is still, if

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Things Have Been Good for a While Now 27 Dec 2015 11:01 PM (9 years ago)

Things have been good for a while now. We live apart but we see each&nbsp;other quite a lot. In fact, we go out a lot together and enjoy each other's company tremendously. We love each other. There is no question about that. We will always be drawn to each other and it has nothing to do with alcoholism or alcohol. It is just that at our core we are very similar and we love that part of each other

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Should a Binge Alcoholic Take on New Responsibilities? 10 Dec 2015 9:55 AM (9 years ago)

I don't think a binge alcoholic and perhaps even a binge&nbsp;alcoholic who is just starting on the road to recovery, should take on new responsibilities because they are quite likely to fail and upset people. They are more likely to hurt more people. Binge alcoholics are unsuited to taking on responsibilities. They are too unreliable. That is my experience in any case. Some constant alcoholics

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Jane is okay 14 Apr 2015 11:25 AM (10 years ago)

Just a quick note to say Jane has been found. It was a false alarm. She had binged. Some misinformation was provided by a hospital, which caused a lot of distress and wasted time. I won't go into detail but it was a bad 4 days.

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Jane is Missing 4 Apr 2015 2:13 AM (10 years ago)

Jane has been missing for about a week. I have reported her missing to the police. I've checked hospitals and her flat et cetera without success. This is simply a record of this moment as much for my benefit as anyone else's. The way I feel at the moment, I am almost sure that she has ended her life but of course I can't be sure but that is the way it feels. Jane has been particularly down

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It's gone bad again 30 Mar 2015 1:28 PM (10 years ago)

It's gone bad again because Jane has lost her job which&nbsp;has caused her&nbsp;to go into meltdown in my opinion. She has binged three times since&nbsp;she lost her job about a month ago, gone to hospital and has yet to apply for a job. It's all very dire, very bleak and a complete disaster. I genuinely fear for her life. I have hardly seen her in a normal condition since she has been out of

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