Why People Suffer
The Impact of the Imagination
"Most people suffer. I witness this suffering regularly in my work as a psychotherapist. What may surprise you is the source of their suffering. Most people think the source of their suffering is someone or something out there in the world - the behaviour of family or colleagues, or the unfortunate events of life. Yet the cause of suffering is from within. Suffering is a result of the stories people tell themselves.
Research reveals that the average person thinks nine times as many negative thoughts as positive thoughts; tells themselves nine times as many negative stories as positive stories. Research also tells us the human body does not distinguish between a real event and an imagined event. Therefore, when we tell ourselves a negative story or think a negative thought, our bodies respond as if these imaginings are real. Medical researchers have discovered that many of us think ourselves sick.
"I've had a very difficult life. Fortunately, most of it didn't happen."Mark Twain
What does this mean for us? It means we need to be careful with the kind of stories we tell ourselves. We need to be vigilant in monitoring the kind of thoughts we imagine and the images we expose ourselves to. Television, radio, and newspapers have a profound impact on us. We should treat them with the same degree of caution we would any powerful or toxic substance.
When confronted with life's challenges, it is important to consider the various possibilities in order to develop appropriate responses. However, if one becomes immersed in their negative imaginings, they will suffer greatly because of these imaginings. I've learned we can manage life. What we can't manage is our imagination about what might happen because our imaginations don't actually exist.
To experience peace and joy at home and at work it is important to understand the impact of our imagination on our day-to-day experience. If we want to be happy and healthy we need to take responsibility for the stories we tell ourselves and allow to be told to us.
Use your imagination constructively and creatively. Imagine the kind of outcomes you would like to occur. See in your mind's eye what success looks and feels like. One of the core messages contained in 'The Secret' was the tremendous power of the imagination. Einstein understood the importance of imagination. He declared, "Imagination is more important than knowledge". We can move from fear and anger to peace and joy simply by using our imagination positively. Our imagination is a powerful tool. Use it with care."
- Ted Kuntz
Everything that you feel, hear, touch, smell is an illusion.
Everything that your eyes behold, that you believe is so important, is an illusion.
Do not take anything seriously. Turn within, do not react.
The turmoil, the chaos that appears to be in this world,
It is not the truth. It is not Reality. It is something that comes and goes.
This too shall pass.
Reality is eternal. It is love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, goodness, meekness and self control and all else is fleeting, and temporary.
Well, I've had the flu since Friday and will call the doctor tomorrow if I still feel like crap. Happy New Year.
The selling off of most of our possessions to live in an RV in about 3 years is going ok. I've sold almost all of my Knitting machine stuff. I still have a little yarn and a few needles to get rid of and some books.
I sold my Janome 300E and all of the supplies, the freezer, bread machine, some books, my desk top computer, my Silhouette SD cutting machine and some of the supplies and some nail polish are gone. I never realized how much STUFF I had.
I still have a lot of nail polish, a lot of quilting, knitting and cook books. I will have a ton of quilting supplies once I get time to go through it all.
It is very freeing and yet weird to get rid of my goodies. :)
Have a wonderful New Year,
Susie
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This was our very first plane ride.
It was in Long Lake, NY at Helm's Aero Service.
Tom the pilot made the trip fun. He was so funny that it kept your mind busy so you weren't afraid. LOL!
May go again in the fall.
At 20:40 he goes to open the window and I'm SO relieved at being back down I give him a big hug. LOL.
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The Test: A Tool of Inquiry by Benjamin Smythe
Here is something I developed a year ago, inspired by The Work of Byron Katie, that I
use to end stress in my life. I notice there is always a desire running in my experience. I notice I can change it. Wow. While the Work is about investigating what happens when thoughts are believed, the Test is about noticing this constant wishing power, and using it intelligently.
The exercise is based on the following:
1. I am the one wishing. I can change my wish.
2. Desires and emotions are linked. What I am wishing for directly creates my emotional experience.
3. Reality is the measure of what is actually happening, obviously.
All I do is get out a piece of paper and answer the following questions.
1. What is my wish?
Example: I wish my shoulder didn't hurt.
2. What is Reality?
Ex: My shoulder hurts.
3. How do I feel when my wish doesn't match Reality?
Ex: I feel bummed out. I imagine it getting worse. I wonder how it will affect my day.
4. How would I feel if I could wish for what Reality is?
Ex: "I wish my shoulder hurt."
I laugh, because it does. I laugh because I immediately get my wish. I laugh because it is absurd,and yet, in the absurdity of it, there is no stress or or suffering.
In the irony of what appears to be an insane wish, there is a flower that blooms. I have no idea why, and I am in love with the clarity it brings.
Notes:
* I cannot fake a wish. I know when I am lying to myself. For question #4, I have to actually
direct the wishing power at Reality. If I can't, then I get what I already had.
* A friend said, "Yeah...but what if I don't wish my shoulder hurt? Aren't I just lying to myself?" Each wish leads to a particular emotional experience. The only question I find relevant is, "What is this wish getting me?"
* What I continue to learn from The Test is if I don't want the emotional experience I am having I can change my desires and instantly be uplifted. I am still shocked The Test actually works. It is a delight everytime I do it and feel the freedom bubble up from below when I wish for Reality and Wham-O, baby!!! Here it is. Amazing.
* I let the experience of feeling what happens with question #4 be the conclusion. You will notice what you did, and notice you did it, or you won't.
(I just call this 'accepting what is because it is what is ... in another word "reality". It doesn't mean you can't take steps to change it but most often I find that accepting what is doesn't hurt me, change me, or affect me unless "I" let it.)
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The ego mind is always trying to protect itself.
That mind is always in
fear, fear of losing it's position, it's honor, it's place.
That mind is
constantly fighting reality.
It never accepts what comes in life as it
always wants what IT wants.
The ego mind is not only a self centered life
but a life filled with defending what is supposedly theirs.
The higher mind
is one of acceptance, one of peace and freedom. All that comes is exactly WHAT
IS SUPPOSE to come.
It is life. The higher mind accepts what is and goes
from there doing and being what it thinks best but doesn't have the defenses of
fear and anger.